Out of touch or in touch?

Ok listening to the radio and a question was asked - is it ok for your partner to stay at another girls house for he weekend as friends?

Everyone is phoning in saying no way that their partners don't do anything without them etc

It made me realise how different my opinion of relationships is becoming - we don't OWN each other - who are we to stop them if that's what they want to do? Is it the act of ownership or trying to own someone that pushes them to want to escape?

If its a trust issue even if they don't go - do you trust them? It's not that I would want them to go but I'd really question why 1. He wants to go and 2. Why I have trust issues with this...

Ultimately we do not own anyone people should be together because that's what they want to do not because they feel they have to - if you can't trust yr partner to act with integrity I think there are bigger issues than him just wanting to go.

Am I alone in this - I was quite surprised at how different my beliefs are to others out there this really highlighted it for me....

Ah Loving_Soul... Sometimes I think You think JUST like me... Those could have been my words.

[Teal]

nope defiantly not owned. My bf tried to tell me he wouldn't allow me to pierce my nose and it look bad blah blah. fly that i say. My body,my decision nothing to do with anyone but me.
as to staying at another home. That would depend on the history of that relationship. I guess. I think it would be weird.

[scoobawater]

*points at Loving_Soul's eyes, points to mine, then points to Loving_Soul's again*

I'm right there with ya. You definitely are not alone in this thinking. I've always felt this way (and my friends always disagreed), but then again, I have been walking this earth alone for quite awhile so I have never had to rely or depend on a partner to do everything with me. Its nice to have someone do things with you because they WANT to, but if they don't I know I'll be OK.

I never want my partner to feel like they HAVE to do (or not do) something out of obligation. That's where resentment starts to come in.

[EricDraven]

LS you must be listening to a more mainstream station, where control and jealousy are a more common and accepted staple of the listeners diet.

I can't say I would particularly enjoy her staying over at a guys house, but I do share your feelings here on it. Although I do aspire to be one who has zero concerns about it.

Yes it was mainstream but that indicates the state of consciousness of most people - I swear sometimes I walk in a different world and it's getting harder and harder to fit in lol