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Originally Posted by veronicax
I truly hope my special bond with this man is just a soul connection and not my TF !! It seems much more likely to end in a happy way. Although he does fit the TF description I am still hopeful that he is just a soul connection. Even though he is committed currently I would like to run off into the sunset with this special person even if it's not till I'm 70.. 
What do you guys feel is the defining differences between TF's and Soul Connection ?? |
I really hate labeling and categorizing, but I also recognize we're all only human, we rely on language to communicate, and words are labels and categories. So yeah, I find myself labeling and categorizing despite myself!
I have many "soul connections" in my life. Soul connections are not limited to male/female. You can have a deep soul connection to someone who's a friend, or even a family member. At the end of the day, we're all souls and connected somehow. What makes these special relationships special is that we had an instant affinity for each other, and the connection has stood the test of time, even without contact for years and years on end.
With such soul connections, you can have syncs (I even have syncs with some people in this group), shared dreams (how many of us had a baby/pregnancy dream recently?) and you can also have telepathy. For example, I can think of my soul friend and out of the blue she calls me and says she was thinking about me.
Some of these soul connections can become soul mates, if the chemistry and attraction is there. I consider my DH a "harmonious" soul mate, because we get along quite harmoniously, with many shared interests. It is an easy going relationship. I actually find it difficult to live with people and vastly prefer to have no roommates... I'm a bit of a loner in that regard. Even my closest and dearest soul friends -- cannot put up with them under same roof for more than a day or two. I often joke that the test of a harmonious soul mate is your ability to travel together, spending a week or more in a small hotel room, losing luggage, all that travel stress. DH is the only person I have ever found makes an ideal travel companion for me -- we have similar sleep/eat schedules, similar need to balance "alone" time with social contact, similar taste in food, and see eye-to-eye on what sight-seeing activities are on the "must do" list. It's a wonderful gift to find such a harmonious partner to share your life with.
I do not like the word "karma" or "karmic soul mate" but yes if we are labeling, I've had many of those too. Again, not necessarily of the romantic kind. It can be someone at work who makes my life miserable, but in retrospect I can see the value of the lesson. My first husband would fall into this category as well. I felt drawn to him the moment we met, without knowing why. We never had syncs or telepathy or anything like that, but something inside me said "give this guy a chance" and so I did. The marriage did not go well (obviously!) as we are divorced. But there was a rhyme and a reason and I have no regrets for the experience and the lessons. We both grew -- and learned so much about ourselves. That marriage clarified for me who I am, what I need to be happy, and what my ideals are. It did the same for him. We've been divorced for ages but get along well today; I can tell you it has been a practice in unconditional love. I do love him in that I wish the best for him, and it wasn't me. He and I have learned the delicate art of "agreeing to disagree." God bless anyone who can manage to do that within the marriage, and stay married. I just could not do it. I could do it once I was free and had my own space -- easier to maintain boundaries from afar.
TF... is something entirely different. It's beyond words, beyond rationality. Yes, there are similarities in that we do get along rather harmoniously, and although I have never traveled with him I have fairly good reason to suspect we would make good travel companions. The dreams, syncs, and telepathy are OFF. THE. CHARTS. And, fate always seems to be intervening. Magical things happen. Mind blowing stuff, which is what tends to spook me. I find I question my sanity; it's all just so surreal.
I am coming around to the understanding that the biggest difference is that this is an internal relationship/connection, more than an external one. Yes, we have that too... but it's the internal that is the differentiator. I would love to see his face again, to have him here, to hold him in my arms again... but I also know I can turn inward at any time ... and there he is.
Maybe he's "just" a Super 1000X soul mate and not a twin flame, and that's fine. Whatever it is, it's a wild ride.
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