Twin flame? Help

[guyre]

Hello my dear friends, I'm here to share my story with you. Maybe you were in a similar situation or just have an idea what should I do. (Btw I'm sorry for my english but it's not my native language and I'm still learning)

Some time ago I was looking for a job and suddenly I received a call from a company I always dreamed about. I got a job in a different place but I decided to go there because I had nothing to lose. Before the interview, me and the chef, we went out for a smoke. After a while two men came to us. I looked into eyes one of them and I felt something incredible. It wasn't that my heart beat faster but it was something what dawned on me. When I passed him I looked into his eyes again and I'll never forget this deep look. So, probably it's nothing new that I decided to change my job and go to that company. I'm rather emotional cold person, I always had problem with feelings to the men. I mean that no one of them never made my heart warm. And here, when I saw him I had palpitation and I couldn't breathe. Sometimes, I was afraid go to work because he was there and I was so shy.. But I also wanted to go there just to see him. Firstly he was nice to me and tried to know me. He made jokes about me. But day by day some bad energy started to be between us. Everything what he was doing I took like an attack on me. He also. I was overwhelmed by it. In the front of the people he criticised me but when we were alone he was nice and friendly. Sometimes, during the work I looked into his eyes and they were warm and kind, even if we argued. One time, I remember he said that he feel that we're connected, that there's something special between us. I wanted to meet him after work just for talk and get better acquainted. I invited him and he agreed but after that we argued again. Definitely. I was so hurt, sad and angry that I decided to left this job because I don't want to see him again. Everything what he gave me was pain and a few kind smiles. My decision wasn't easy because I knew that I won't see him again but I thought it will be better for "us". I left the city and go to my family to get some rest and forget. After some time I started to dating again, firstly it was hard because I was still thinking about him. Finally I gave myself a chance to be in relationship with someone else. I was walking with my new friend in the centrum (it was the day when he wanted to ask be to be in relationship with him) when suddenly I heard a familiar voice. This place is very loud but I heard only this one voice. I turned around and I saw HIM. He took my breath away, I was shocked and so weak that I couldn't stand. My heart beat like crazy. He was shocked too. Time stopped for a moment and then he passed me. He spoke by phone. In that moment I realised that I can't start a new relationship because I still have feelings for him. I thought that maybe now we will have contact again but nothing happened. I tried to forget again but I started to see him in my dreams, meet very similar people or hear his name (in my country it's very very rare name) It was the first person in my life who made my heart so warm and who hurt me so much. He saw all of my hidden motives when I did something. I've never met a person who saw me through like him.
What should I do? I can't start a new relationship because I'm still thinking of him and I also can't be with him because he offended me. Please, help!

[Robinski78]

That is a very sad story guyre... Sorry you should be experiencing such tragic, mixed feelings... They appear to be very difficult to live with...

I'm no match maker, or authority on partnerships of any description... However, if you want peace of mind, and foster the desire to move on to find a new companion, I would suggest you make a determined effort to set the man free and take positive steps to put what has taken place, well and truly in the past...

Unless you do something of that nature, you may well languish in a world of discontent for many a year...

Best I can offer... Hope others will be able to do more to resolve your problem...

Best wishes...

Robbie....

Hi, guyre,

Sorry to hear about all this....it's saddening to hear these twin-flame stories
that patently aren't (twin flames) who (in my reckoning) don't behave like this together (or if they do, they're mad).

Firstly, though, workplaces romances are dangerous - nice when they're going ok and people look on a pair as "an item"
but when things go wrong people are stigmatised in one way or another.
It was worse in this case because he was already established in the workplace.

So now I ask sincerely if you've asked yourself if this is infatuation? You made eye contact and something about him drew intense emotions from you.
So your first impression lasted - but as you got to know him were you able to be honest when you decided what you liked and not
about his personality? You obviously didn't like his mockery and bossiness.

I mean, like, was he collaborative and helpful to you as a new employee?
Doesn't sound like it which to me means he isn't "loving relationship" material anyway.

You know what I'd do - forget him and keep up your new friendship.

There are several things you can do.
1) Deliberately contemplate the things you don't like about him.
2) Find things about his looks you don't like and ponder on them. His expression when he's mocking; the way he stands, things like that.
3) Before you sleep at night, just stand there in the dark and visualise him with a face in one of his nasty moods - see it as evil,
then utter "Begone! I don't want you in my world any more!" and thrust your hands out, palms facing out, to banish him.
See him fade out or dissolve into smoke or something - keep your hands out until the vision is gone!

Then 4) As you lie down to sleep, imagine/visualise a lovely place to be.
See people you like there and tell yourself this is how you're going to dream tonight.
See you and your new friend sharing, just sitting on a knoll or meadow smiling and chatting away about nothing special, just being.

Just a couple of days and he should disappear from your firmament or at least be on the way out!

Sincere hopes that things get better and he clears off out of your life.

Lorelyen.

[Awakened Queen]

This is somebody you have known from past lives. Ask yourself what he is triggering within you? When he offends you, how does that make you feel? Does it remind you of other people from your past hurting you? Does he remind you of your mother or father in the way that he treats you? What feels familiar about the way he makes you feel? Focus on that, so you can heal those wounds from the past/childhood.