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Originally Posted by John DiFool
Since my initial "rescue" I have continued to try to build her up, send her cute and/or uplifting pics (sent her flowers once) and convince her that she is the terrific person that she is.
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Dear John
You did NOT rescue anyone, especially her.
You did what any good friend or neighbor would do. Some food, kind words, and little companionship are NOT considered RESCUING.
It is merely PHYSICIAL SUPPORT and COMPASSION. You did that to show her that you have these abilities and that you care for her.
We all need physical support at some point in our lives. You also WILL need this kind of physical support from someone in the future.
Why?
Because we will all become old, sick, and die. Some of us are already there.
I am sensing that you are afraid of getting hurt after you invested physically and emotionally into this relationship - Because others in the past disappointed you.
By withholding physical intimacy and physical support, you are thinking that the possible "hurt" will be less painful. This is not the actuality because the pain actually will be greater due to regrets.
LOVE IS TAKING A RISK. LOVE IS ACTION.
Without taking a risk to show LOVE through actions, NOTHING will happen.
IF SOULS do NOT want PHYSICAL LOVE, THEY WOULD STAY IN THE SPIRITUAL WORLD.
IF SOULS JUST WANT SPIRITUAL LOVE, THEY WOULD STAY IN THE SPIRITUAL WORLD.
Souls are in this physical world to experience LOVE with ALL PHYSICAL SENSES.
Hence the reason, why they are born into our physical bodies.
In fact, SPIRITUAL LOVE is NOT the priority in the romantic LOVE pyramid.
Physical love is
the foundation of the romantic love. - Similar to Maslow's hierarchy of needs pyramid.
For a satisfying and complete romantic relationship, mental, emotional, and spiritual loves have to be developed after the basic physical love is established first.
We are fooling ourselves if we think that the physical love, physical caring, and physical support are beneath us.
If we do not have these physical aspects in the romantic relationship, none of the other aspects will ever satisfy our cravings.
Just read others' postings about their cravings for the physical intimacy and physical longing for their SCs. Most of them claim to have the spiritual connection and love for them already; however, the LOVE is not satisfied and something is seriously missing without the physical love foundation.
You are going through the UNCERTAINTY period in a new relationship and this is a normal dating stage.
Most couples break up during this period because they do not understand that this is a normal psychological stage of dating.
Since you are NOT sure if you want to be around her (now that she is dating you), VISUALIZE the following images in your mind.
1. She will get better and stronger. She will find her career path again and will be productive again.
2. Once she is better (and since you are not next to her anymore), she will find another man and will get into a romantic relationship with him.
3. He is the one who will kiss her and will make love to her.
4. He is the one who will be there when she reaches over for affection and love
5. He is the one who she will marry and may have children with
6. He is the one who she will share laughter and all joys of her life.
7. He is the one who is holding her hands.
You will be just a fainted memory.
If you are perfectly OK with the above images and are glad that she is in another guy's arms, you should let her go. In fact, I insist, if that is the case.
Just observe and wish her well from the far. You may be safer but you will be missing out a lot.
People come and go.
Only few pull you so strongly that you have a spiritual awakening from its soul connection. It is a rare blessing. But if you can let it go, do that. I just hope that you will not regret your decision 10year from now... or even after 20years from now....