transmuting anger

[NightSpirit]

Originally Posted by mattie

Appreciate that anger is a really low energy. It lowers one’s frequency considerably. Is this where you want to be??????? Consider this w/o any giving your psyche a spanking or any criticism for not being the mythically perfect ray of light! We are here to be fully human & sometimes the opportunities sooooooooo present themselves. LOL.

Others can seek to rope us into their drama. Seldom worth the energy. Their issue of how they operate. Those who don’t have personal power can throttle others to feel a sense of power. This is really kind of pitiful as this is savoring a really low level of ‘power‘ & is sort of an energetic cripple. They will learn in time that other uses of their energies are much more satisfying.

Fully accessing anger can be useful to get it out of ones’ system if this is part of the process of discharging it. Usually it is beneficial to move on after that & discharge it from our personal energies. Creative visualizations of one’s choice can be useful in moving it out of our personal energy field. It can be escorted out on gossamer butterfly wings or a cruise missile, neutralized w/ love, or just unceremoniously tossed out like yesterday’s old kitchen garbage that is getting a ripe whiff to it. It can be sent back to the Universe for recycling. Routine energy maintenance for the nonphysical body however one chooses to do it is part of mastering our energies.

It sounds like you’re already using your innate wisdom by making a ‘minimal phone call’ that may have been a much more effective option than the more dramatic scenario options. Your plan to actively work w/ your energies to rebalance your self is also accessing this inner wisdom & choosing to focus on your own energies.

I tend to agree with you mattie. I find when I sleep on it or vent to a friend over a few days, it loses its charge and I eventually find the humour in it all. I have learnt, like tilia, to hold off on responding because we can't take back what is said. It's always good to hesitate.

Originally Posted by Uma

tilia,

Please post your solution when you find one. I struggle with this myself. Someone suggested Aikido, taught by a spiritual instructor. Aikido is a martial art that not only uses the opponents' negative energy against themselves but protects the other person as well. When I am in a high state of consciousness, centred in peace, love and wisdom, nobody's anger can penetrate or it's like water on a duck's back and I'm able to respond from a space of compassion, unaffected. My body's own fight or flight response has no power over me when I'm centered. But when I'm caught off guard in ordinary consciousness, their negative energy is like a dart that goes deep and then I have to find some way to dislodge it - safely, otherwise it's in my mind churning and churning all the time and disturbing my peace. This is a tough one IMHO.

p.s. Another aspect to this is that we are only affected by negativity when it triggers some negativity within us, exposing it. Sri Vasudeva teaches that these are opportunities to relive it and use the intellect to change the pattern that keeps getting triggered. So the other component to getting and staying centered is being honest with yourself about blind spots and working on transforming yourself. I do this too but I'm aware of my own resistance to it (the inner battle between darkness and light).

Self forgiving anger (saying that no problem being angry) works because you are not stressing yourself anymore. You relax and you are no more angry.

Other approaches say oh noooo I shouldn't be angry. You stress yourself. How is that a solution?

3dnow

3dnow

Originally Posted by NightSpirit

What is holly BFR?

Holly Bach Flower Remedy, for anger, resentment etc.

Originally Posted by Uma

But when I'm caught off guard in ordinary consciousness, their negative energy is like a dart that goes deep and then I have to find some way to dislodge it - safely, otherwise it's in my mind churning and churning all the time and disturbing my peace. This is a tough one IMHO.

That is exactly how I felt. Just seeing her name on the e-mail physically hurt and I was shaking like it was shock. After reading it I became furious and the anger welled up, BIG TIME. Went into total fight of flight, just from an e-mail.

I agree also that it is hitting something in me. I was unable to respond and I have a major thing about defending myself. She had blocked me so I couldn't tell her exactly how I felt, it's like I am letting her treat me badly, just like so many other people in my life. I also can't reply because I know it will just make it worse.

After the last relationship I told myslef no-one would get away with treating me badly again.. and here is it!! But I have to accept that it is only treating me badly if i let it. I have to pass through the need to retaliate and let it roll off me knowing she is no-body, unimportant and pathetic.

I am certain she will be telling people how terribly I am treating her, when I have done nothing. I know this because she has done it before. She craves drama and surrounds herself with it. I WILL NOT be more drama for her to get sympathy for.

*deep breath* ... and back to the work that I am supposed to be doing!!

[NightSpirit]

Originally Posted by tilia

Holly Bach Flower Remedy, for anger, resentment etc.

ok thanks...I wont respond to anything else you post since we got off on the wrong foot and I'm okay with not fanning the embers. Been there, done that with too many scorpios and i have learnt all it does is rattle me.

Cheers

Tilla ( or mabey killa eh lol)

2 things id suggest:

Trying to hold in the anger, and not let it flow ( im not talkin lashing out here), will inevitably cause more problems, you have to find an outlet, whether thats writting, yelling, getting a punching bag, drawing.... theres lots. Theres nothing wrong with being angry at all, just some people let it take over, instead of letting it pass. When they take over, thats when the true harm is done.

If you phoned, and asked for her to leave you alone, thats good. But the best thing to do is ignore it. Trust me, not putting yourself in that situation is the best.

Of course if it continues, you may have to make a harrasment charge. Anything unwanted, including contact, is concidered harrasment. I hate resorting to it, but it may have to be done.

I hope its all good soon

Nightspirit, i feel the same about scorpios. For some reason i don't get on with them either. I guess there's something to astrology.

[NightSpirit]

Originally Posted by cheeky_monkey

Nightspirit, i feel the same about scorpios. For some reason i don't get on with them either. I guess there's something to astrology.

Since I dont wish to interrupt tilia's thread, I will pm you with my answer. Hope you dont mind.

Oops sorry for interupting Tilias thread. I feel so embarassed. I'll shut up.

When I get really angry, I go and stand in a field and let it out.

Maybe you could get a punchbag, can only be healthy if your head's straight, right?