transmuting anger

Hi

Something has happened that has made me VERY angry. It happened last night and I am still seething. I made a very minimal phone call to try and stop it happening again but the scorpio in me REALLY wants to lash out... all kinds of scenarios running through my head of e-mails I could send, phone calls I could make, (non-violent) things I could do to show this person how furious I am.... but I know if I do any of it it will make the situation worse and I will cop the karma.

I meant to put Holly BFR in my water bottle today but forgot... somehow I have to shift this seething boiling anger and let it go...

Anyone got any hints??

Originally Posted by tilia

Hi

Something has happened that has made me VERY angry. It happened last night and I am still seething. I made a very minimal phone call to try and stop it happening again but the scorpio in me REALLY wants to lash out... all kinds of scenarios running through my head of e-mails I could send, phone calls I could make, (non-violent) things I could do to show this person how furious I am.... but I know if I do any of it it will make the situation worse and I will cop the karma.

I meant to put Holly BFR in my water bottle today but forgot... somehow I have to shift this seething boiling anger and let it go...

Anyone got any hints??

When this happens I forgive my anger. I say no problem with being angry, and I am no longer angry (if I am still angry I continue to forgive). It works like magic.

3dnow

[Emmalevine]

Don't react while angry. It's amazing the difference a bit of time makes to your perspective. It is very tempting I know, having experienced similar very recently, but it's better to give yourself time. You can scream and swear all you want in private. I took time to think and compose myself. Then, I wrote a formal letter expressing my feelings and responding to the person and situation that made me angry. In doing so, I rose above his attack and wasn't drawn into what the person wanted. Your situation may be different but it is always good to take time out and consider how to deal with this calmly and in a mature manner. That doesn't mean you can't make phone calls, but you'll have given yourself space so you react rationally rather than from pure instinctive emotion.

[Emmalevine]

P.S. It was two days before I reacted.

the phone call I made was a very calm "please tell your wife to leave me alone"... nothing worse. So I'm not worried about that at all. But you are right, I do need to take time. I hope to not react at all, to not do anything because I know if I do anything it will just continue. The only way to stop this is to do nothing, but at the moment I just want to scream and shout in her face! (I will add again, I am not a violent person and will never do anything to hurt her or her family)

I had walked away, I had let it go, cut ties and moved on, and she has to stir it all up again. I'm sure this is because I had cut ties and she didn't like that.

Tonight, if I have the energy after a day at work and the shopping, I intend to do some more energy work to shift these feelings so I can once again let it go and move on.

Originally Posted by 3dnow

When this happens I forgive my anger. I say no problem with being angry, and I am no longer angry (if I am still angry I continue to forgive). It works like magic.

3dnow

That makes sense, thanks for posting.

Originally Posted by tilia

That makes sense, thanks for posting.

It worked?

3dnow

[NightSpirit]

Originally Posted by tilia

Hi

Something has happened that has made me VERY angry. It happened last night and I am still seething. I made a very minimal phone call to try and stop it happening again but the scorpio in me REALLY wants to lash out... all kinds of scenarios running through my head of e-mails I could send, phone calls I could make, (non-violent) things I could do to show this person how furious I am.... but I know if I do any of it it will make the situation worse and I will cop the karma.

I meant to put Holly BFR in my water bottle today but forgot... somehow I have to shift this seething boiling anger and let it go...

Anyone got any hints??

What is holly BFR?

I was going to say what works for me is to 'sleep on it', but it seems you've already done that and it hasn't helped. I am surrounded by scorpio's in my family and know too well the 'sting of the tail'. To make it worse, i am an aquarian and I think that exasperates people because i'm too chilled out.

Anyways...back to the subject...another way is to have an avenue to vent which helps to diffuse the feelings. my pm is open if you just feel like venting...i dont need to respond if you prefer not and I'm extremely good with keeping other ppl's info to myself.

Cheers

[Uma]

tilia,

Please post your solution when you find one. I struggle with this myself. Someone suggested Aikido, taught by a spiritual instructor. Aikido is a martial art that not only uses the opponents' negative energy against themselves but protects the other person as well. When I am in a high state of consciousness, centred in peace, love and wisdom, nobody's anger can penetrate or it's like water on a duck's back and I'm able to respond from a space of compassion, unaffected. My body's own fight or flight response has no power over me when I'm centered. But when I'm caught off guard in ordinary consciousness, their negative energy is like a dart that goes deep and then I have to find some way to dislodge it - safely, otherwise it's in my mind churning and churning all the time and disturbing my peace. This is a tough one IMHO.

p.s. Another aspect to this is that we are only affected by negativity when it triggers some negativity within us, exposing it. Sri Vasudeva teaches that these are opportunities to relive it and use the intellect to change the pattern that keeps getting triggered. So the other component to getting and staying centered is being honest with yourself about blind spots and working on transforming yourself. I do this too but I'm aware of my own resistance to it (the inner battle between darkness and light).

Appreciate that anger is a really low energy. It lowers one’s frequency considerably. Is this where you want to be??????? Consider this w/o any giving your psyche a spanking or any criticism for not being the mythically perfect ray of light! We are here to be fully human & sometimes the opportunities sooooooooo present themselves. LOL.

Others can seek to rope us into their drama. Seldom worth the energy. The drama is their issue. Those who don’t have personal power can throttle others to feel a sense of power. This is really kind of pitiful as this is savoring a really low level of ‘power‘ & is being a sort of an energetic cripple. They will learn in time that other uses of their energies are much more satisfying.

Fully accessing anger can be useful to get it out of ones’ system if this is part of the process of discharging it. Usually it is beneficial to move on after that & discharge it from our personal energies. Creative visualizations of one’s choice can be useful in moving it out of our personal energy field. It can be escorted out on gossamer butterfly wings or a cruise missile, neutralized w/ love, or just unceremoniously tossed out like yesterday’s old kitchen garbage that is getting a ripe whiff to it. It can be sent back to the Universe for recycling. Routine energy maintenance for the nonphysical body however one chooses to do it is part of mastering our energies.

It sounds like you’re already using your innate wisdom by making a ‘minimal phone call’ that may have been a much more effective option than the more dramatic scenario options.
Your plan to actively work w/ your energies to rebalance your self is also accessing this inner wisdom & choosing to focus on your own energies instead of generating more pointless drama.