How do YOU deal with an Energy Vampire?

Heaven · #1 12-11-2014, 07:54 PM

In my case I have someone in my family group that's an energy vampire. For a couple of months I didn't spoke with (SUE) I'm making up a name! Well I was at peace and I was feeling like myself till Sue decided to call me again and depleted my energy again. I was pretty bothered for at least 2 days, that's how bad it is. The problem is that I don't even think that she knows how bad it affects me to talk to her, even Sue texting me bothers me. But what can I do, she's family!!! Everything that comes out of her mouth is negative and I can't stand it. People in general annoy me pretty easily and I don't trust people that much so if I talk to you is cause I like you. Well in this case I have to talk to her or do I????? Cause I'm at a snapping point with her and I really don't care if I ever talk to her ever again. I been nice to her, but I'm so feed up that I don't know how long I can be nice.

Anyhow the reason I opened this thread is cause I want to know how you have dealt with an Energy Vampire and I often wonder do they even know that they are Energy Vampires??? or it is usually the other person that realizes that?

Theophila · #2 12-11-2014, 09:20 PM

Indifference, become indifferent. We sometimes have people in our lives we can't avoid be it relatives, coworkes or people in our social circles who we can't avoid.
Personally I avoid them like the devil. But when forced I just shut down completely and just play along and nod.
If it's that severe picture protection around you, pray for white light to protect your soul and do whatever you need to spiritually to ask for protection.
I have a few relatives like that and by doing this it has worked. Hope this helps!

Heaven · #3 13-11-2014, 01:45 AM

That's for sure I do need to have a long prayer before talking to her. I was just thinking that it mainly happens when I'm talking to her on the phone. She doesn't affect me as much as if I see her in person. Its like her attitude is so different and cause there are other people around too, so I think when there are other people her energy is not direct to me so I kind of get a relief. Thanks for your advice Ishtar.

Theophila · #4 13-11-2014, 01:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Heaven

That's for sure I do need to have a long prayer before talking to her. I was just thinking that it mainly happens when I'm talking to her on the phone. She doesn't affect me as much as if I see her in person. Its like her attitude is so different and cause there are other people around too, so I think when there are other people her energy is not direct to me so I kind of get a relief. Thanks for your advice Ishtar.

I have another trick to for when you have to speak to her on the phone ..keep it faaaaaaar away from your ear

Captain · #5 13-11-2014, 05:53 AM

When she calls don't answer if you have caller ID. Don't call back and if you feel you must its time for you to take control and say something like "hi, you called? hey let me tell you first I've got company coming over soon so I can only talk for a minute or two." Be creative. Learn to deflect.

No, just because you share DNA with someone, that's not a license to drain your energy. Some family members need not be in communication. Anyone and everyone who drains you energy should get the cold shoulder from you.

#6 13-11-2014, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Captain

When she calls don't answer if you have caller ID. Don't call back and if you feel you must its time for you to take control and say something like "hi, you called? hey let me tell you first I've got company coming over soon so I can only talk for a minute or two." Be creative. Learn to deflect.

No, just because you share DNA with someone, that's not a license to drain your energy. Some family members need not be in communication. Anyone and everyone who drains you energy should get the cold shoulder from you.

Are you sure? I think maybe it wrong ("maybe")

Clover · #7 13-11-2014, 07:52 AM

I completely cut ties with them.
My sister was like this. I am not about bashing her, that is my least intention and I do wish her well, however, my life has been less worrisome and stressful without having contact with her. I am sure we will eventually get to a peaceful space, however, a this point in my life I have too much on my plate to invite unwanted negativity, even if it's not about me personally. Sometime's people's baggage can feel a little suffocating, distance and cutting ties is sometimes helpful, at least in my case.

Heaven · #8 13-11-2014, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Ishtar

I have another trick to for when you have to speak to her on the phone ..keep it faaaaaaar away from your ear

Hahaaaa.......lol that's what I did last time I talk to "SUE" I couldn't take it anymore and I keep it far away from my ear and what a nice relief.

I just keep saying "yeah", "ok".

Heaven · #9 13-11-2014, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Captain

When she calls don't answer if you have caller ID. Don't call back and if you feel you must its time for you to take control and say something like "hi, you called? hey let me tell you first I've got company coming over soon so I can only talk for a minute or two." Be creative. Learn to deflect.

No, just because you share DNA with someone, that's not a license to drain your energy. Some family members need not be in communication. Anyone and everyone who drains you energy should get the cold shoulder from you.

I have done the I have company before and she still talks, and talks and talks. Its like she's out of control. But like you said I'm just not going to answer.

Heaven · #10 13-11-2014, 05:07 PM

That's exactly what I'm talking about BlueClover!!! I'm going to have to completely cut ties. I have my own issues to deal with and I don't need any more negativity. That's the main thing that gets to me, she suffocates me. I can't stand negative people! Everything is bad for SUE, nothing is fixable for SUE her life is a mess and everyone else is ok. She tells me my life is better than hers that's the kind of ** that I have to listen too. Meanwhile she has no idea about my headaches and troubles. When I have attempted to explain it to her she doesn't listen to a word. I'm done! I don't hate her whatsoever, I just can't stand her negativity it drains me. I always say count your blessings, we all have good things and bad things that happen on a daily basis but if we concentrated on the bad things "only" then more bad will happen to you. But if you are happy and you embrace the goodness around you and you appreciate what you have even if is not much the more good will come upon you.