Re-writing / re-programming

Belle · #1 03-07-2012, 12:17 PM

I am taking a long hard look at what I am and have become - some of which has been placed upon me it's easy to say but then - such things I chose. I feel my inadequacy coursing through my veins - some 30-40 yrs (yes, I'm that old) of "stuff".

I need to re-write myself. I need to stop making the same mistakes. I need to move towards the best. I need to stop engaging with co-dependencies.

It doesn't feel enough to say "I deserve the best". For starters - what is the best? Moreover - that doesn't feel sufficient - rather I need a few mantras to work with.

Can anyone suggest what has worked for them??

I'm not looking for a quick fix, I suspect a long life of work to create Belle as I am meant to be.

#2 03-07-2012, 11:13 PM

We all go through hard times at some point. It happens so we can be aware, and make the right changes. :-)

Some simple advice straight away is that it shouldn't be hard work to be who you naturally are. This is a common pitfall. You intuitively already know who you are. Now try to take the steps towards that perfect image of you.

If you've been so forgetful of the real you for so long then realise that even though you shouldn't push yourself unecessarily, it may take a while to wash the conditioner out. ;-)

Work a little generally on self-love. I sometimes also tell myself 'I love you'. It helps before you go to bed, or in a simple meditation. This way the cells can all absorb that message deeply. Prayer also can help. You don't need to say anything - just be sincere and put your hands together. This always helps me when I need it.

What would you need to feel inadequate for anyway?

Belle · #3 04-07-2012, 07:11 AM

Thank you She Who Plays (love your name!)

I think I'm a product of common pitfalls as you say, which is why I feel inadequate and instead of absorbing the universe's view of me, I've absorbed other's views - generally the unkind ones.

#4 08-07-2012, 11:14 AM

same boat. Really want to change the script. The way this one ends, over and over again, is starting to get a bit predictable. Noticed the only constant here is ....me!

Have you read anything about tapping? about releasing old energies and old thought patterns? Here's one website http://www.thrivingnow.com/

I've gotten a lot out of it. Good luck!

Belle · #5 09-07-2012, 07:11 PM

Hm thanks Kaceykat - I'm not a fan of tapping - it doesn't feel real to me. I can understand it for things like giving up smoking, changing eating habits etc - but for feelings and thoughts, I'm not getting it. Maybe it's a one for another day? All these things worth bearing in mind.

shadedragon · #6 10-07-2012, 03:21 PM

Similar to reasoning with others to find the best solution, to find the best possible answer, try reasoning with yourself and talking through things, writing or however you may want to do it, until you discover what it is that you truly want to do and become. Sometimes the answer can be a surprise to us, other times we knew it from the start. It took me hours and I'm still always questioning my thoughts and what I'm trying to go towards and what I am doing to go that way, but it allows you to explore yourself and learn more about yourself in a calm manner. It also is great for reasoning with others as well. A few good starter questions would be : "who am I? " what do I want to do in life? " "where do I want to go? " how can I get there? ","why are things the way they are? " what do I want to change? " what am I doing? " and why is this and why is that. Self exploration is a great thing to do :)