How can I tell my mother that I'm a Wiccan?

Originally Posted by Riboflavin

Same with my best friend and every other friend that ive lost over the years because ive opened my stupid mouth.

As a general rule, dont talk about
1) Religion
2) Politics
3) Any kind of supernatural experience or phenomena

Riboflavin:
Sounds like you need new friends - people who have open minds and respect you. And I would drop those "friends" who won't let you express your own dam beliefs and feelings. Your mouth is not stupid - neither are you.
And as for your list of prohibited topics, as a general rule thumb, those topics really shouldn't be discussed in depth with general acquaintances, co-workers, or strangers. But I have had wonderful in-depth discussions on those topics with some family members, a couple of co-workers, and friends that respect me.

You’re not obligated to tell her everything you are into. You can describe your spiritual interests w/o using words that will be alarming to her. This isn’t all that hard to do. If she notices you reading a particular book you can just say that you’re curious about different belief systems. You can call it an Earth oriented religion, like some of the honored older ancient ones.

When discussing spiritual issues w/ others it is an ethical responsibility not to overload them w/ too much unfamiliar information. Some thrive on huge amounts of new information while others need new information, particularly that which can cause them to react negatively in very small tidbits.

[Riboflavin]

Originally Posted by LadyMoondancer

Riboflavin:
Sounds like you need new friends - people who have open minds and respect you. And I would drop those "friends" who won't let you express your own dam beliefs and feelings. Your mouth is not stupid - neither are you.
And as for your list of prohibited topics, as a general rule thumb, those topics really shouldn't be discussed in depth with general acquaintances, co-workers, or strangers. But I have had wonderful in-depth discussions on those topics with some family members, a couple of co-workers, and friends that respect me.

Wish i could attract such friends. For me, such people are rare. Its probably obvious now because of what i said earlier in this thread but ive had more than my fair share of bad experiences in that way.. although i am happy for anyone who cannot relate to what im saying. I might be envious if i could relate to it in any way, but even imagining it is a little beyond me right now.

Originally Posted by Riboflavin

Wish i could attract such friends. For me, such people are rare. Its probably obvious now because of what i said earlier in this thread but ive had more than my fair share of bad experiences in that way.. although i am happy for anyone who cannot relate to what im saying. I might be envious if i could relate to it in any way, but even imagining it is a little beyond me right now.

Well Ribo, I've had some bad experiences as well. And sometimes true friends are hard to find. And sometimes even when you think you have found them - they turn on you. I had a bad experience with a very good "friend" stab me and my hubby in the back big time in 2003. And in the past few years, severed ties with a 30 year friendship because it was obvious her value system was not on par with mine. I always had a dislike of her mooching, and not respecting my stuff - I've always had to work hard at my job for what I have - and she was always on welfare and just learned how to say "gimme gimme" and take and take and take. (not putting welfare recipients in general down) -and in the past 10 years, she's gotten outrageous - milking the system for all its worth, getting fired from a job because of her arrogance, then not even bothering to get another one. And her new drug problem hasn't helped our friendship either. So I said goodbye to all that.

So I really don't have any close friends, not like a gal pal where I can hang out with anymore. And sometimes that bothers me, but on the whole I'm pretty happy. And I love facebook - I've reconnected with long lost relatives, and just have a ball!

well, hugs to you Ribo - hang in there. When the time is right and the person(s) is/are right - you'll find people you can be honest and forthright with. In the meantime, ya got us guys here on the forum!