Calm before the storm....or is it?

I have a question!! Once you have let go...how do you stop connecting with your TF???? I feel him all the time and its so painful even thougth I feel peace inside and overwealming love for him. My connection to him seems to have strengthen which I don't understand since he has disconnected from me somewhat. If I am ment to move forward without him...how am I supposed to achieve it while feeling him so intensely??

[Element 5]

Originally Posted by niki74

I have a question!! Once you have let go...how do you stop connecting with your TF???? I feel him all the time and its so painful even thougth I feel peace inside and overwealming love for him. My connection to him seems to have strengthen which I don't understand since he has disconnected from me somewhat. If I am ment to move forward without him...how am I supposed to achieve it while feeling him so intensely??

You will get this same reply from most of us. There is no disconnecting from your tf. It's impossible. The best thing you can do is be a peace with the connection and not fight it. Fighting only makes it harder. Remember, this isn't a physical/human connection that can be severed. Something at the soul level is unbreakable no mater what happens in the physical.

Originally Posted by Element 5

You will get this same reply from most of us. There is no disconnecting from your tf. It's impossible. The best thing you can do is be a peace with the connection and not fight it. Fighting only makes it harder. Remember, this isn't a physical/human connection that can be severed. Something at the soul level is unbreakable no mater what happens in the physical.

This is very good and you are right.

Niki Hun we are not meant to disconnect - it isn't possible - and no we don't even need to give up hope - but we do need to accept it for what it is now, move forward with love and have faith that what is meant to be will infact be.

Here is a song that I love that reminds me of this....


Check out this video on YouTube:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZe1W...e_gdata_player

[EricDraven]

Originally Posted by Element 5

You will get this same reply from most of us. There is no disconnecting from your tf. It's impossible. The best thing you can do is be a peace with the connection and not fight it. Fighting only makes it harder. Remember, this isn't a physical/human connection that can be severed. Something at the soul level is unbreakable no mater what happens in the physical.

Oh yes, same reply. This is 101, no severing the connection, you are not crazy(well not because of this), crazy and bizarreness grows, and enjoy the frickin roller coaster.

LS..is not about giving up hope...is about being able to move on. Because I feel him so intensely is driving me insane. I feel him in the mornings, I know when he is happy, sad, angry, when he has had an argument, even when he makes love!! I feel his energy shift..in the last couple of nights (while the full moon) Its drove me insane!!! I just wish I didn't feel him so much. I don't want to disconect...I just want it to ease up a little bit so that I can move forward but he is in everything I do, every song, every thougth, everywhere. :(

Thank you all for your replies :)

Lol the face truly describes the feeling of standing on the edge of the precipice and sometimes all you have left is blind faith

Originally Posted by niki74

LS..is not about giving up hope...is about being able to move on. Because I feel him so intensely is driving me insane. I feel him in the mornings, I know when he is happy, sad, angry, when he has had an argument, even when he makes love!! I feel his energy shift..in the last couple of nights (while the full moon) Its drove me insane!!! I just wish I didn't feel him so much. I don't want to disconect...I just want it to ease up a little bit so that I can move forward but he is in everything I do, every song, every thougth, everywhere. :(

Thank you all for your replies :)

Yup it is very much like that - it still is but it no longer has my emotion attached to it for me as I've learnt to just feel it and let it be...if it gets too intense find your calm and send him back healing calm love - not love with emotion attached as this will just continue the dance...

You will get there Hun but there really is no cheating it it's not a choice you can make its a place you get to - try in everyday moments with others that emote a less stronger emotion in you - to observe your emotions in action, recognize the thoughts behind it start learning about yourself...this will help ease things with your TF eventually :)

[EricDraven]

To niki and Jatd, as it seems you're both in a similiar place, as of today today anyway.

There is a reason I believe for all the feelings and the time required to move through them, which you eventually will. And likely bounce back and forth.

If you believe in a Higher power, ask for help from God, the Masters, Angels etc to provide you with some aid in processing all of this, guidance, and a lessening of the intensity of the feelings, at least for a while. And if you don't believe in a Higher power, well you will soon. lol

START meditating.

View all of this from the perspective of your having chosen to experience this. Cause you likely did, long ago.

And have Faith that this and what's to come is for your Highest good. Trust it. It's not an accident. Everything happens for a reason.

but how can you say that there are no emotions attached? We feel with our hearts...feeling with our hearts means that we are dealing with emotions.

when you say to observe our emotions in action and recognise the thougth behind it....That is an interesting concept..I supposed that with every feeling that we have there is an emotion attached...hence why I would think that feeling my TF without emotion attached is somewhat hard to achieve since I am feeling his emotions. I think that I am getting confused now!! LOL....at least I am laughing about it :)

Originally Posted by Loving_Soul

Yup it is very much like that - it still is but it no longer has my emotion attached to it for me as I've learnt to just feel it and let it be...if it gets too intense find your calm and send him back healing calm love - not love with emotion attached as this will just continue the dance...

You will get there Hun but there really is no cheating it it's not a choice you can make its a place you get to - try in everyday moments with others that emote a less stronger emotion in you - to observe your emotions in action, recognize the thoughts behind it start learning about yourself...this will help ease things with your TF eventually :)

Originally Posted by niki74

but how can you say that there are no emotions attached? We feel with our hearts...feeling with our hearts means that we are dealing with emotions.

when you say to observe our emotions in action and recognise the thougth behind it....That is an interesting concept..I supposed that with every feeling that we have there is an emotion attached...hence why I would think that feeling my TF without emotion attached is somewhat hard to achieve since I am feeling his emotions. I think that I am getting confused now!! LOL....at least I am laughing about it :)

Sorry Hun will try and explain - I can only speak from my experience...

When all this started happening I was absolutely in reaction mode - like a leaf being blown around in a storm...

Through healing and clearing the c&@p basically I then started getting clarity on what thoughts were driving my emotional reaction...

So now when I feel the emotion I observe it I instantly look at the thought behind it - what has provoked the emotional response? I let the thought go and replace it with faith - that stops the emotional reaction in its track....

You feel it, recognize it...replace it and let it go....breathing while you do it.

That is one reason why I try not to let myself get tired or hungover as it makes it more difficult to do this and I fall back to being the leaf being blown around in a storm again...

I'm not saying don't feel the emotion - I'm saying don't feed the negative thought that is intensifying it...

Does this help?