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22-04-2013, 10:19 AM
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Druggie tf problem, again!
well, for all of you that read my last post about my junkie twin, there is another problem again. I can't seem to block him out, and now I started feeling when he's using like I'm using it. I am strongly against drugs, and he knows it, and now every time he takes something, it's like I took it too. I'm going mad. any help?
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22-04-2013, 10:28 AM
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Have you tried to talk him into getting help?
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22-04-2013, 11:19 AM
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Originally Posted by amissaanima
Have you tried to talk him into getting help?
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They can only help themselves. Till they are ready to seek help its virtually impossible to intervene. For most that takes hitting rock bottom.
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22-04-2013, 11:46 AM
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Originally Posted by BeautifulLife
They can only help themselves. Till they are ready to seek help its virtually impossible to intervene. For most that takes hitting rock bottom.
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This is so true in so many of life's difficult situations - drug addiction, depression, eating disorders, relationship breakdowns ... I know that sounds really trite, but it is really true. I "suffer" from clinical depression and even though I had heaps of people wanting to help me, I wasn't able to start getting better and developing strategies for living successfully with it until I hit rock bottom and had no choice but to help myself out of it.
Olly, I hope your TF is able to help himself soon x
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22-04-2013, 12:10 PM
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Ascender
Join Date: Feb 2012
Posts: 802
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Quote:
Originally Posted by BeautifulLife
They can only help themselves. Till they are ready to seek help its virtually impossible to intervene. For most that takes hitting rock bottom.
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Sometimes Rock bottom isn't enough. It took me to actually meet my TF to even consider quitting drinking. Believe me, if an addict meets his TF he'd/she'd quit in a heartbeat. I'm proof.
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22-04-2013, 10:33 AM
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I've talked to him a thousand times about it, he won't stop it. I've talked to his family about it, his friends and nothing.
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22-04-2013, 10:54 AM
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Awwe. I hope he will see someday. I don't know. I was lucky enough mine wanted to. It was hell while he was going through it tho. I didn't feel it as you are, gut I felt so bad for him.
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22-04-2013, 12:25 PM
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But everyone is not the same. It isn't that easy and you know it. There can be a lot of heartache and and/or extreme emotions, even when they are good emotions it can be hard for some to deal with.
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27-04-2013, 12:43 AM
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Ascender
Join Date: Feb 2012
Posts: 802
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Originally Posted by amissaanima
But everyone is not the same. It isn't that easy and you know it. There can be a lot of heartache and and/or extreme emotions, even when they are good emotions it can be hard for some to deal with.
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Trust me I've relapsed millions of times. I ruined a lot of relationship because of my addictions, both romantic and platonic. My TF says she left me because of my alcoholism, but I quit drinking for the relationship to flourish and not turn just like the previous past ones. I never drank around her, and ironically she still left. Now did I drink after she left ran with no excuses ? Damn right I did. Theres more to my long story but Im sick of telling it haha. My TF story is so fixable and not so complicated like nearly the rest of you. She lives an hour away, theres only a 1 year age difference and we both don't have kids and are not married. Yet she chooses to run. That's ok, I don't mind being alone and polygamous while I'm still young and single. Meanwhile I'm meeting soul connections left and right. I just say to myself, "keep em coming universe" they are a very good distraction from the whole TF thing.
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26-04-2013, 06:19 PM
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Knower
Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 123
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hi olly27.
i can imagine how that feels. my tf is unable to stop using as well despite there being a family depending on him and two near death experiences. i think it all caused him to use more. nothing we can say or do would stop him. you have to be strong for him. but most importantly be strong for yourself.
this is something your TF has to come out of by himself. and you have to be ready to be there for him when he does.
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