life path of singledom?

I have a number of friends that are still single and in their 40's.

One of them has been asking me what he can do to meet the right girl.

When I was single I spent a lot of time talking and listening to Spirit and I was told that some people have chosen a life path of being single, bringing all the lessons that can be learnt from that.

Has anyone else come across this? I have made some suggestions about changes he can make to his life but I am wondering if this is his lot and he needs to accept it. How do you tell someone that?

[Emmalevine]

I don't believe anything is set in stone. Some people choose to remain single and that suits them, but if someone wants to meet a partner there's no reason to assume it's against some pre-determined fate. That's how I see it anyway.

The best way to meet someone is to relax and let it happen when the time's right. I'd love to meet someone and have tried internet dating etc, but I'm not pinning all hopes on it. Maybe your friend could focus on meeting people with similar interests whether through work, socialising or extra activities/hobbies, and see what happens. Internet dating might be worth a try as long as it doesn't become a major addiction!!

I'm sure the right girl will come along if he relaxes about it, doesn't expect perfection and is settled in himself.

I havnt had a gf since for almsot 10 years. I still did the thing, but never commited. Probably has to do something with a really bad breakup in HS lol, but generaly, im enjoying the single life ( theres always downsides).

The thing is, if you dont look you wont know whats out there, and if you look to hard and are picky, youll miss some great oppertunities.

So i guess a passive "keeping your eyes open" is what you should do.

Then again some people just dotn want to be with anyone. SOme have reasons some dont, as long as they are happy and heathly, thats all that matters. No point in being in a relationshiop and married, to make people happy, yet your so miserable all you want to do is leave right?

I'm in my 40's been single for 8 yrs .. and having the time of my life. I'm single coz I choose to be. Saying that, I do feel quite distinctly that I've meant to be so in order to sort ME out, come to know, accept, and love ME. My philosophy is IF I'm meant to meet someone I will do - in the meantime, tell you're friend just to enjoy himself, be positive, have faith and trust that the Universe will provide what he requires. He's got to work through the past, deal with it and let it go, not worry about the whys, wherefores ifs and buts, be positive and have fun - the rest will take care of itself I'm sure :)

Jue x