Please help me figure this out

Originally Posted by Flear

holding onto a relationship will create anger, bitterness and resentment

letting a relationship go before such negative feelings take over the relationship, you can still salvage love, compassion, friendship, ... it's just no longer a close intimate relationship.

things change at one time you two were perefect for each other for where each of you in your life, ... but as has been mentioned, we change & grow, if our relationship does not adapt, it's then holding onto things that are long past, the relationship gets sick, it's not allowed to breath, it's not maintained with love, it's now maintained with the past, obligation, duty, but no passion, no love, a commitment of a promise when you were, as you were before, not as you are now.

Thanks for those thoughts. I really needed to hear that right now.... So tough to go through these things.

Personally, I'm to the point where I want to avoid any possibilities. I gave one a chance, and recently, I found out what they really were.

Avoiding at this point is easier to do than have a broken heart....to have believed that someone was a true friend when they are really a completely different person....I'm tired of it after many years of this happening. I give up.

I realize that this is not a healthy way of looking at things, but I am too hurt inside to feel like doing anything else. I don't have any heart left to give for such a relationship. I have no idea how to get past it.

How do you figure out a person is just pretending to be someone else? I guess that's a topic for a different thread....Not sure I'm allowed to do that yet here though.