Healing loneliness

[TroyMartin]

Allow yourself to become an individual over time will help. Loneliness is a sign of addiction, to need interaction in your life or the addiction gets exposes as feelings of loneliness. Loneliness is like the withdraw symptoms of being a crack addict. Learning to live without people and recognizing that the feeling needs to process out is all you can do. There's no magic instantaneous fix. I lost my family to cult religion. I rejected my family's religion and they're not supposed to have anything to do with me because I'm an "apostate". At first you think its not right to be alone and believe that 'everyone needs each other' but not really. When you do get used to being by yourself you become an individual as opposed to just a sheep in the herd that follows everyone else. The benefit of processing loneliness out is amazing because you realize how much you sacrificed your individuality as a result of consistent interactions with others.

[jimrich]

Originally Posted by Emmalevine

How do I heal loneliness that crops up from the past? I have made peace with my childhood generally speaking, but every so often I get triggered and the sadness floors me. Is it something that will always be part of me? I find it so painful to deal with as my family are so different now and they have each other. I was the odd one out, the odd ball, and although I try to connect with them there's no real interest on their part. I have to accept that and move on, but for many reasons, past and present, it is very hard to do. I have always craved a deep connection but loneliness and being alone seem to be common themes. I've made some peace with this because I'm an introvert anyway, but I still crave a feeling of belonging.

Sounds like you are the 2nd or the middle child.
IMO, loneliness comes from a damaged or neglected sense of self worth/esteem/respect, etc. which is often the legacy of the 2nd child. I'd google: self worth/respect/esteem to learn how to bolster yours and begin loving your self to make up for the lack or absence of love in your childhood. My parents were rather unloving so I suffered with very bad self worth until I got into therapy and learned how to fill myself up and beat loneliness. It still comes up but now I have some mental tools to fill myself up and not feel so lonely. I can be alone but NOT lonely even though I am pretty much a "loner". It's all about giving your self the things you didn't get as a child so, good luck becoming full and fulfilled........

[Jared.L]

I think you should make up with your family members. Otherwise you will feel lonely and abandoned all the time.

[cc_nami]

Do you have friends or people who are like minded? I know being the way I am and believing what I believe no one understand or believes me. I found a new age shop and I finally feel like I'm not by myself. I have people I can go to who can understand me.

[Alice_1]

Love yourself and you will never be lonely.