Thanks for the tips norseman :)
only thing that sux is i live in a very busy place... only outdoors i have constant access to is my garden of which still has dogs running around and hear the neighbours in the complex etc... but i will try give it a go.
the only other sad part is here in SA the land has never really given me the sense of belonging... not like it did when i felt like i was in a magical world when i visited England 8 years ago...
my line comes from the European countries and since i was small always loved the place even before i got to go there.
It is however not easy for me to move there so i do feel i should try open up myself more to where i currently am. I think that would have to be my first step.