Need help with passing of Rita

[PecaS]

I want to ask you for your help guys.

Rita passed away today at 5.30 am in my arms. However I have heartache and doubts so I can't move on and since it's me I can't follow proper procedure.

So please help me. I need to know
Why did she leave, what illness took her from me?
I am afraid I made a mistake so that I caused her death.

I heard a few discarnate beings. Are then who I think they are?
I heard her say: I will be back. Will she?

And anything else I should know about her and her death...

[Native spirit]

Firstly i am sorry for your Loss,you are grieving and what ever any one says to you wont sink in just now.
You did nothing wrong so stop blaming yourself,

You need to grieve for Rita you can rest assured she is at peace now.



Namaste

[PecaS]

Hi.

Yes you are right. I am in deep pain, but I still need to know the answers.
That's why I'm asking now because passing is so fresh that the connection with this world hasn't been severed and so I can read the answer that you guys get at a later time when my mind is more at peace.

Thank you for your sentiment.

[bobjob]

Originally Posted by PecaS

I want to ask you for your help guys.

Rita............and her death...

I'm sorry to hear you're in such pain but puzzled. What illness took her from you you are asking? Shouldn't practitioners this side of the divide tell you that?

I don't know what you mean about your mistake causing her death because you haven't told us but I urge caution about asking online about personal issues. You do not know who is answering you or about their ability to counsel or help.

Your loved one will be fine now and is being taken care of. Any questions about her coming back are similar to those we will all face. The simple answers are is that she will have the opportunity to decide if that's right for her, the time will be of her choice, nothing will be forced on her and she will receive all the help she might need in every sense.

[Miss Hepburn]

Someone said to me in deep grieve, "She gave you the greatest gift."
(By dying). I learned and advanced so much from that loss.
You might feel connected to every person that has ever lost a loved one
throughout time, understanding every sad song, the meaning of every poem.
You have this moment to go deep and ask within for guidance and answers to so many questions you may have.
What a time it is when a loved one goes to the Other Side.
Cry and cry and feel the depth of your heart, I say...and talk to her.

[ayur3112]

rip but you have to move on

[bobjob]

The engraving RIP is great on a headstone if that's folk's belief... But the dead - generally - don't rest anyway because they don't get tired.

[Miss Hepburn]

It helped me to read all I could get my hands on, in 1991, on
the Afterlife and those things. Best wishes.

[Native spirit]

What Bobjob said is correct when we go home to spirit we are free

but Miss hepburn also has a point.


Namaste

[Miss Hepburn]

It has never been 'helped' me knowing full well, my doggie was free and playing again or my loved one
was now free of this world.
My grief was about me loving them and not seeing them again, (here, right now, in this life)...I knew they weren't 'gone'.
It's a mourning that comes naturally. Logic can be used later, sure, much later.

Now, if I was a practicing, detached Buddhist for years...maybe I would flow better.
But loss of a loved one - has little logic...it's just pure grief....for me.
And I'm fine with feeling this painful, heartbreaking, human emotion, sobbing till you can't breathe.
I don't wanna be detached and logical that I will see them soon.
(That does come way later, tho.)
I'm just sayin .... I accept this is 'me' and the stages that I go thru after all my losses.