I need help

[Chak117]

Originally Posted by jro5139

I think your biggest issue is that you are putting your happiness on someone else. Whenever we put our happiness on external things (whether it be a person, a degree, a job or whatever) we seem to end up disappointed. The only real way to be happy is to find it within.
Signs in my experience lead us to events or experiences that are meant for our growth, but they also often end up being quite painful, that's been my experience anyway. And I've had some whoppers of signs, and with more than one person at different times in my life. So for one thing, don't think that this is the only person you might ever experience signs with. And for another, the pain comes in when we think that the signs mean that person is "the one" (whatever that means). My experience of signs are they bring us to our own growth, which is often through painful experiences.

As for "the one" that doesn't really mean anything. People IMAGINE that there is one person they are supposed to spend their lives with. I don't believe in the one and can tell you that I personally, do not have a "the one" (although I have met many soulmates). A lot of times who we end up with comes down to both parties free will and the future is not set in stone.
There's lot of different types of soulmates, and some just come and go to teach us something. But often they are some of the ones we feel the strongest about.
As for your heart chakra, I'm not an expert on chakras but it sounds as though you have closest it off. The heart chakra can become closest which is extremely unhealthy. So try to keep feeling and keep loving, even while going though painful experiences. This is the key and the trick to not ending up bitter and angry. And yes, when you do end up with a closed heart chakra the experiences that left you that way will keep repeating. So don't close off to your feelings, however painful they may be. It's much healthier to work through them than to disconnect.

Okay.. I understand what you're saying. Maybe whats going on it that im just being lead into bad experiences believing they're supposed to be good ones?

What confuses me is that all of these signs just keep coming and when I finally acted on one of them it ended up being very painful. but the signs didnt stop. why? and why no direct communication?

Also, i dont quite understand why it isnt a good idea to seek what and who you want in the time we have here. Isn't that the point ( or one of the points)?