Where exactly do I stand?

[echogirl]

Insecurity, disappointment, and uncertainty all seem to cloud my judgement...

There is a man I have been getting to know over the past 9 months or so. When we started out, it was purely sexual (and very passionate.) We put a limit on things by terming ourselves FWB, and to avoid looking to clingy, I just went with it. I kept my options open, and tried to have a life outside of this relationship, being that it seemed superficial, but our time spent together was anything but...

Over the course of our time together, we spent many evenings and nights together... we went out to dinner, bowling, karaoke... we would hold hands and go arm in arm in public... we spent evenings at his house watching tv, eating dinner, playing board games... and we had MANY deep conversations about anything and everything. Needless to say, we grew rather close together. He is absolutely one of my best friends, and never do we have a dull moment together.

Problem is...a few months in, he asked to be monogamous, but not exclusive...whatever that means. Basically he doesn't want an "all immersive" relationship because he has a daughter and doesn't want to bring families together. At least not yet. I kind of get that, but I do think he could make more of an effort to bring me closer if I mean anything to him. He doesn't want to use the term girlfriend or boyfriend, and I told him that without he can't ask me not to see other men. After all this time, I do think we need to make things a little more official. I feel like a secret...

Is it time for me to move on, or am I being too pushy?