Co-worker emotional leech?

[Bornonthecusp]

I just came across something on Facebook that is so apt, so I thought i'd share it. It's from some kind of spiritual guidance card pack and this one is:

CONFRONTATION: Choose your battles wisely - with a beautiful picture of a woman and a giant cat, with a dragon and rainbow on it, it sounds ridiculous but it is beautiful. Anyways so the card says: It is not how many arguments you have had and won, but how many you can avoid by not giving it any energy or voice. You never make friends when you assert yourself with fact and say it as it is. You will always offend someone. When you use tact and guile or maybe a little humour, you can then diffuse the situation and consider the feelings of the other person involved. This does not mean that you don't stand up for yourself in the most important issues. On the small nonsensical issues, silence is the most powerful virtue. It is wiser to choose your words with care and withdraw your battles.

So i believe the tact of not perpetuating or escalating the issue or even reacting face to face is perfect, they do not get to win as you choose not to play their game.

[Flexi-Girl]

I would confront her ASAP. In fact I would recommend doing it when others are present. The nice thing about confrontation is you don't have know peoples true intentions. People are wonderful until they are not. Then you need to show your claws. Even if you upset her, she'll respect you in the long run, and you'll be setting an example for others in how to treat you.