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Originally Posted by LookingForGuidance
Do you have any advice for me on the Universe connecting me to a twin flame who is spiritually abusive? disrespectful? critical? cruel? jealous and controlling?
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I read a lot about divine plans working in the most mysterious ways on this
forum but I ask myself why "the universe" (a synonym for god) would play
such a hateful trick using individuals as pawns in some greater agenda,
causing them suffering etc. It smells of Job in the Bible, the victim of political
games between god and the devil. Well, it isn't a very nice god or universe
who would do that. So at the very best it is some broken connection with the
Creator and Its spiritual reach into you, I'd guess.
Others here might claim it a karma issue. There could be several reasons
why you feel this but know that the feelings come from your interpretation.
My immediate answer is that he isn't (what I interpret as) a twin flame, just
someone who's run his time with you. People behave themselves unusually
well during the early days of courtship then, as the romance dies out they
start to see a more realistic side of each other. Good when it stays great
but sometimes it's just reached its end. The people simply don't mesh.
You just have to get rid of him. In one way it's as simple as removing the
label. From what I read here and in many splurges on the web, twin flames are
supposed to help each other evolve in a positive way, not learn lessons in
spite of each other. So if he's putting you through hell, you have to ask
yourself. Twin-flamism is pretty fashionable at the moment. But...what would
you have thought - and done - say, 30 years ago before the snake-oil
merchants crowded the web? In those days the twin ray thing was the
province of dedicated theosophists, not ordinary people trying to find
Mr or Mrs Right.
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Is this happening to me because God wants me to clear the planet from abuse and using me in this insane relationship to do it?
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I doubt it. You aren't alone in suffering an abusive, horrid relationship and such things aren't clearing the planet.
The only way I can think to do one's bit toward that is to spread a wonderful,
positive psychic atmosphere...if with a partner someone with whom you
share mutual happiness and appreciation. Unconditional love is the aim but
not always possible.
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As soon as I met him, my inner voice said to me "oh no, I've already loved one crazy abusive man my whole life (my father!) i'm not loving another" I sabotaged the physics relationship and got out - but it's been 2 years now, and his spirit is so controlling that he yells at me about what to wear, what to eat, how to do my make-up, what to buy when I shop, how to cook and clean, and also makes me exercise sometimes twice a day. Some days his spirit has me pinned to my bed, or keeps me inside my house -
Every once and awhile he'll say hello to me by banging on one of my kitchen pots. I'll think "if that's you then bang the pot again" and it'll cling and move. It's usually 3 times in a row this happens.
Why is this happening to me? What am I doing wrong?
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You're doing nothing wrong. You're vulnerable and have to build solid
defences. You have to banish him from your life and there are
many ways to do this.
But ultimately it comes down to you, if you have faith in your strength to do it
and whether you really want to do it.
If necessary, seek counselling - not from the internet but face to face with
someone
neutral. If you had the chance to talk this through to a
person who can help you find your individual solution, it's my bet you'd start
to rationalise why you're putting up with it....which is a first step to undoing
it.
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Am I supposed to use the intense Hate I feel for him in order to feed my own self love?
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Dangerous, that. Be rid of him, be rid of the obsession before you aim to love
(i.e. appreciate and value) yourself to the full. Don't draw dark stuff deliberately
into your
being. Think about counselling.
♥