The universe was sad towards me, but why?

[Guff779]

So I've gone to extreme, extraordinary lengths to get a 'female'

-Online dating (0/200)-200 messages sent and none sent back and yes I did things meticulously, before already asked people what profile pics to put on, what profile info and what sort of messages to send.

-Community there is a chance that in time I'll get someone from here, but it's almost like a last resort thing they see of me.

-Uni-first year was extremely hard, it's like all the men get the friendships and the universe doesn't give it to me.

-Approaching, if I approached more, I could possibly have success

-Go out and bars-it seems like in the last 2 years for some reason the universe is giving me nothing, it's stalling me.

And I have no females, only 1 female cousins and no female friends for the last 10 years. Yes I was shy before and maybe hesitant on 2-3 occasions.

And I forgot to say I've been bullied by uncles, even my sister and had a long term speech impediment. I had a sad home life. I've also been bullied at school, maybe because of lack of role model and emotional nourishment.

There's just plain bad luck in the last 2 years. I've done nothing wrong, I'm very generous and virtous.

I've read a lot of self help material since 12 years ago and I've been very precise with body language, projections and I can be confident with good social skills.

If you can think of bad karma, then what do you think it is? It just seems there is bad luck.

[John32241]

Hi,

The reality is with things like this is that your beliefs which have restricted you, not the universe.

As I look over your post and examing your word selection I can see how you have created your reality. Your Self Talk has condemed you. Change your outlook on life, speak to your self about those qualities you have which women will admire.

In life it is not the man that gets the female. It is the female that selects the male. Spend more time listening to women talk. They notice those things. They also notice when a guy is desperate, which you have been. Change that by altering your habits.

Women are far more impressed by intentive listening than by any thing you could say.

John

[Miss Hepburn]

What John said. :)

Also, try each day picturing yourself as a confident guy...standing tall,
laughing easily...exuding kindness and light-heartedness...it's like a magnet.
Always be clean and smell good!!! Big plus with women.

[Taking a Break]

Hi,
Wouldn't it be a great idea if someone could introduce you to a single lady?
You would get to know each other better by emailing and telling each other everything, also the boring stuff.

Miss Hepburn, I'm sure you know a lot of single ladies, you could introduce him to?

[John32241]

Hello,

My experience has been that confidence can not be given to you by another person.

When I was 30 years old and did not have a girl friend I was able to get a Mercy Date from some one who was kind. It did not help that much.

Eventually a person needs to work out their own personal issues. That is my point of view naturally.

John

[iamthat]

Hi Guff779

This is obviously a big issue for you because all your posts are centred around this theme.

Whatever you are doing, it is not working for you. Why not try relaxing, letting go, and trusting that the right woman will appear in your life when the time is right.

Peace.

[emperorcow]

The universal is never sad to anybody. It treats everybody the same. Perhaps, you can change the way you see the world. This will completely change the world which you live in.

Good luck!

[iamthat]

Originally Posted by Guff779

So I've gone to extreme, extraordinary lengths to get a 'female'

If you can think of bad karma, then what do you think it is? It just seems there is bad luck.

Let us assume that the important relationships in our lives are based on karmic links we have with others. Sometimes we meet someone and feel an immediate connection. In your case you seem to struggle to make these connections.

In terms of karma, a very simplistic perspective could be that in some past life you used and abandoned women with no consideration for them. Therefore in this life you find yourself unable to enjoy a satisfactory relationship with women. This is not "bad" karma and nor is it the universe punishing you. It is simply a restoration of balance.

So it may be that you have lessons to learn from your lack of fulfilling relationships with the opposite sex. And perhaps when you have learned whatever it is you are meant to learn then someone will come into your life and you will really appreciate her.

Of course, this is all speculation, as our past lives are an unknown mystery. But I suspect that it is nothing to do with bad luck.

Peace.