"twin flames" what are they?

[Kaere]

Thanks very much. Incidentally, I hated the monkey bars :P I much preferred the swings.

[Falling Star]

heehee. me too.

But it is so truthful, we do have to let go in order to move forward.

well, i didnt mention i already had a girlfriend, and i still do. i never planned to cheat on her. like i said i was only searching for more friends, both males and females. she knows about the account, even she has one there. and as long as we keep these friends on-line and not in real life it's ok. we talked about this.

however my problem is with this woman that seems to be stalking me..she even asked me to break up with my girlfriend because of the claims of soul mates or whatever.

from what i read, i thought i should indeed feel some attraction towards her, like @LadyImpreza1111 said; only that i feel nothing. not even desire to meet her in person.

[Falling Star]

I guess you have to go with what you feel inside then Krystallesama.

[Kaere]

Okay, so you were on a dating site, didn't disclose to this woman that you are in a relationship, and that you were just looking for friendship? I think she's definitely justified in getting the wrong end of the stick, thinking that you were available for and might have wanted more.

A soul mate/twin flame would never ask you to break up with someone, it's not that kind of relationship. They'd want you to be happy, even if it was with someone else.

Just cause she feels it, doesn't make it so. Only you know deep in your middle.

My advice still stands, you've got to be clear and firm about the fact that you're not interested. And I'd even have to say not even being friends with her - it's too late for that. I think you're going to have to make a clean break.

Originally Posted by KrystalleSama

however my problem is with this woman that seems to be stalking me..she even asked me to break up with my girlfriend because of the claims of soul mates or whatever.

from what i read, i thought i should indeed feel some attraction towards her, like @LadyImpreza1111 said; only that i feel nothing. not even desire to meet her in person.

What I think.. hmm.. bear with me, because I don't know how to phrase this in English very well.. I hope you'll understand what I'm attempting to say.

I think she's projecting her own wishes and desires onto the image she has of you. I don't think that she sees you as you truly are. I don't think that she knows what makes you 'tick', so to speak, and I don't think that she has a clear perception of how this whole thing feels to you. In her opinion, you are destined to be with her and there's nothing in her mind that could tell her otherwise. I feel that she may have been disappointed in a previous love, and/or that she is projecting what she wants the most onto the first person who seemingly fits her criteria (which is you, unfortunately). You don't reciprocate her feelings at all. You are happy with your girlfriend and you are not looking for anything other than friendship. She does not respect those boundaries, because of her belief in the soulmate-concept and the idea that this soulmate is you.

What I advise right now is to put every mail you've ever received from her in a new folder in your mailbox that reads RETURN TO SENDER. The energy attached to those words makes the folder act like a mirror for the energies she's sending out to you. Those energies will be reflected back at her without doing tangible damage to you any longer. It acts, for all intents and purposes, like a brick wall she can't break through no matter how hard she tried. Send her one last mail that says "I do not want you to contact me any longer" and do not reply to any other message she might send after that.

Originally Posted by SunSister

What I advise right now is to put every mail you've ever received from her in a new folder in your mailbox that reads RETURN TO SENDER. The energy attached to those words makes the folder act like a mirror for the energies she's sending out to you. Those energies will be reflected back at her without doing tangible damage to you any longer. It acts, for all intents and purposes, like a brick wall she can't break through no matter how hard she tried. Send her one last mail that says "I do not want you to contact me any longer" and do not reply to any other message she might send after that.

Great idea.

wow, im impressed in a good way :)
i received great input on what i should do -yet again- and i think i will be more tough about it.
i'll keep you all updated

@SunSister : you put your thoughts great in English. better than me ;)

some updates:

I finally send her an email telling her that i never loved her, that i only thought about her like i think about any other family member, and that i never had any love/infatuation feelings towards her. i even send her a pic of me and my girlfriend and told her i was panning to marry my gf. (which i really do, she makes me want to be a better me ;) ).

she didnt answer. not yet and it's been 2 days since i wrote to her. my only wish is that she WILL find what she is searching for.