as someone with this wonderful connection if find it hard to understand how

[Zoeila]

normal people can seemingly so easily throw away love. i know a lady that was deepy in love with her bf but he wanted a kid and she didnt so she said bye to him. its like im now incapable of understanding the motivations of people that dont ahve this connection and it leaves me confused by what people do sometimes.

[LittleBirdy]

its called sacrifice. if your life goals differ from the one you love you let them find someone who CAN make them happy in the long run.
that is healthy and reasonable and very unfortunate.

[FallingLeaves]

Originally Posted by LittleBirdy

its called sacrifice. if your life goals differ from the one you love you let them find someone who CAN make them happy in the long run.
that is healthy and reasonable and very unfortunate.

yeah... unfortunately sacrificing for my benefit is yet another of the many excuses my TF found for not wanting to be with me. She *really* doesn't like me... But she always paints herself up so good in the process of saying goodbye lol!

[QT Pie]

Originally Posted by Zoeila

normal people can seemingly so easily throw away love. i know a lady that was deepy in love with her bf but he wanted a kid and she didnt so she said bye to him. its like im how incapable of understanding the motivations of people that dont ahve this connection and it leaves me confused by what people do sometimes.

Real love cannot be given up. Real love is not a choice it is an experience. You can love someone and love yourself enough to know partnership would not be fulfilling or compatable for you or the other. when the ego is involved clinging occures.

Most people do not know what love is.

[LittleBirdy]

Originally Posted by QT Pie

Real love cannot be given up. Real love is not a choice it is an experience. You can love someone and love yourself enough to know partnership would not be fulfilling or compatable for you or the other. when the ego is involved clinging occures.

Most people do not know what love is.

thank you

[LittleBirdy]

Originally Posted by FallingLeaves

yeah... unfortunately sacrificing for my benefit is yet another of the many excuses my TF found for not wanting to be with me. She *really* doesn't like me... But she always paints herself up so good in the process of saying goodbye lol!

is it really all her though? are you pinning all the blame on her without looking at yourself?

[Kalika]

Originally Posted by QT Pie

Real love cannot be given up. Real love is not a choice it is an experience. You can love someone and love yourself enough to know partnership would not be fulfilling or compatable for you or the other. when the ego is involved clinging occures.

Most people do not know what love is.

Couldn't have said it better!

[Delay_Reaction]

I know many girls who gave up on love to start families with other men because of the following reasons: someone being physically closer (as in not living many miles away), their families didn't approve of the person they loved, financial stability, biological clock ticking, etc...

All idiotic reasons to leave someone you love if you ask me...

They will regret it later in life. Big time. On their death bed, they will say the biggest mistake they ever made was to give up on love.

Yes, i am angry about it, because it makes absolutely no sense. I would never do something so stupid and throw my happiness away like that.

Flame away.

Originally Posted by QT Pie

Real love cannot be given up. Real love is not a choice it is an experience. You can love someone and love yourself enough to know partnership would not be fulfilling or compatable for you or the other. when the ego is involved clinging occures.

Most people do not know what love is.

But what is real love?

Well, you said it - it's an experience which means it's unique to us all.
Ego is inevitably going to come into meeting/enjoining-with another person.
How could it be possible to engage without the "I" at the front of the
encounter?
You'd be personality-less were you not to have you at the forefront of a
relationship. You and the person you're with would be in your separate shells
feeling things, experiencing things but unable to communicate...without
the "you" coming through.

As you describe things, if real love is to be egoless, then how can it be
communicated? Words? Gestures? They're your public front - ego.

♥

[jro5139]

Originally Posted by Delay_Reaction

I know many girls who gave up on love to start families with other men because of the following reasons: someone being physically closer (as in not living many miles away), their families didn't approve of the person they loved, financial stability, biological clock ticking, etc...

All idiotic reasons to leave someone you love if you ask me...

They will regret it later in life. Big time. On their death bed, they will say the biggest mistake they ever made was to give up on love.

Yes, i am angry about it, because it makes absolutely no sense. I would never do something so stupid and throw my happiness away like that.

Flame away.

You know, the one time that I talked to a psychic about my tf, the psychic told me that my twin would be miserable for the rest of his life if he gave up on love. That thought doesn't make me happy though. And I'm not saying the psychic was right, but he did tell me some things that my twin thought and the next time I saw my twin, he said the same things the psychic did without me prompting him. Doesn't really make me feel better though.