ancestor troubling is it gods will(shiv's leela)?

there is this coconut in my temple room in my house in which my ancestor(pitra-my dead unlce) lives i had insulted my dead uncle(pitra) in ego.saying what a stupid coconut.n he had been troubling me since then.n i just wanted to know if its shivs leela (god's will) because he spoilt my spriritual journey in which i was supposed to get a lot of gyan(spiritual knowledge) and now all the experience i was supposed to have in my spiritual journey is spoilt n he want me to live with out my ego n he promised me to give me all the gyan im supposed to get in a short span.the only good thing came out of this is that i wont be a spoilt egoistic guy.he has been torturing me for like 3 years making me stay at home.
i got to know that its my ancestor from around 20 babas ,matas n gurus.
so yeah i justed wanted to know that whatever happens happens for good and is it shivs leela that i insulted the coconut.
my destiny is gone or watever because pitras do leela(leela-they have all the knowledge of the universe so they do work with that) n dont come in this world of destiny

sry for the bad format of this question n please only people who know abt it please answer