How much to express and withhold

Aloneyetnot · #1 27-09-2018, 03:06 AM

I'm not sure how to word my question but I'll try, lol. I think this is more geared towards those who aren't in separation, or have a stable type of connection.

How much do you hold back your (positive, loving) feelings in regards to your twin? Sometimes I wonder how much to say and how much to hold back... specifically around his birthday because he struggles with them (due to his childhood and other stuff.) He thrives off of our friendship and my care for him as it's something he's always lacked in his life. He loves and needs my compassion, yet sometimes gets triggered by it due to his past and circumstances.

I know there's probably no right or wrong, just curious, like usual. Thanks!

ssdm1 · #2 28-09-2018, 11:52 PM

I tell mine how I feel. He also gets triggered at times but I think that is meant to happen for him to heal those things form his past.

I'll PM you more

ForgedInFire · #3 29-09-2018, 02:30 AM

Ehhhhhh.... not living in the truth in any capacity is living a lie. Now turn the question around.. now answer to yourself how much youd like to have withheld from you by him. What you do they will do back.

Aloneyetnot · #4 29-09-2018, 03:55 AM

Thanks so much, you two. Great thoughts and reminders. Love and light!

Akc1213 · #5 29-09-2018, 05:54 AM

He is not for you.

Bornonthecusp · #6 29-09-2018, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by ForgedInFire

Ehhhhhh.... not living in the truth in any capacity is living a lie. Now turn the question around.. now answer to yourself how much youd like to have withheld from you by him. What you do they will do back.

****ing yes! Anything but the truth s a lie, why put off expressing your truth? How people handle it is on them, I think as long as your intention is truth and truth alone, and love of course. Then why the hell not, why let fear get in the way of what could be an even deeper, truer connection?!

M.Tesla · #7 29-09-2018, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Aloneyetnot

I'm not sure how to word my question but I'll try, lol. I think this is more geared towards those who aren't in separation, or have a stable type of connection.

How much do you hold back your (positive, loving) feelings in regards to your twin? Sometimes I wonder how much to say and how much to hold back... specifically around his birthday because he struggles with them (due to his childhood and other stuff.) He thrives off of our friendship and my care for him as it's something he's always lacked in his life. He loves and needs my compassion, yet sometimes gets triggered by it due to his past and circumstances.

I know there's probably no right or wrong, just curious, like usual. Thanks!

I think I can answer this as my twin flames compassion, and love made me thrive. I also had lack of love during my childhood and teenage years. Id also get triggered but it wasnt because of her love..it was due to my past ex girlfriends who treated me poorly, and feeling like eventually she would be like them.

Anyway, id say you could express your love all the time and it wpuld be just fine. For me, I love when she shows love to me. It makes me feel really good. Shes pretty consistent with showing me she loves me, and I always wanted more haha.

Hope this helps a little. I just felt I could help you with it because I related to how he had lack of love in his life, and you sound like you take care of him well (like my own twin flame does)

Domt doubt yourself

Aloneyetnot · #8 29-09-2018, 06:15 PM

I greatly appreciate your perspective, and yes it sounds like your situation resonates much with his. Sometimes he goes into hibernation when I'm forthcoming with such feelings. He does this in order to take it all in, and the energy overwhelms him. He loves and needs to hear it, but it's so foreign to him. I wrongly interpret his "backing off" as him rudely pushing me away, which I deep down know he's not. Thanks again for chiming in to my post!