Forgiving...

[athribiristan]

Originally Posted by Flora

How do I forgive people I love and who have hurt me?

Its not a solution to say that people who love you would not hurt you...because life is not that easy. Sometimes you hurt people you love the most...
But how can I really, truly forgive them and not carry the caused pain with me?


Cheers,

Flora

By taking responsibility. When you accept that it is all your responibility you will see that there is noone to forgive but yourself.

[Flora]

Thanks everybody for the posts :)

Flora im dealing with a similar issue. Its at a point where i can say it to myself and absolutely mean it, but to me, it must be genuine, i must actually feel it. and i do to a certain extent, but not fully. I can pile all the wisdom of how and why to forgive that i can muster, and i can muster a lot.....

but you know what? it doesnt change how i feel, and thats what matters right?

I think, first is the decision to do so, then to actually do it, just takes time to let the wound heal itself you could say.

but i just dont know for certain.

id love to hear what you find out about yourself in hindsight.

Originally Posted by unus supra

I think, first is the decision to do so, then to actually do it, just takes time to let the wound heal itself you could say...

As you say, healing takes time and we need to be patient and loving with ourselves, otherwise it cannot come to us.

With love - Aquarius

[Ravens_Light]

Hello Flora...

I haven't read the whole thread but wanted to share a book that really helped me with forgiveness.. Especially toward my father who was very abusive in a multitude of ways, for as long as he was alive..

It's Journey of Souls... And Courageous Souls... Both these books came to me at the start of my journey and really opened my heart.. It allowed me to let go of a lot of things that were keeping me from further awareness/awakening..

What it did specifically was to show me who my father really IS.... His Soul... And the perfection, love and light that is there, even if it was not evident in his relationship with me in this lifetime....

Learning about how our souls plan our life's challenges & growth.. About how those who love us the most in our heavenly home are often the ones that offer to play a certain part in our lives on earth --- villian or friend --- so that we may have an opportunity for growth and an expansion of our soul... Has truly brought me peace...

Tho' I still am dealing with the after affects of some of this past trauma, I now realize that there is silver in every dark cloud and all I do is try to find it. ♥

(((((HUGS))))))

Edited to add that I totally agree w/Aquarius' post "Forgiveness grows from understanding".... It was in understanding the true nature of our souls that I was able to forgive my father.