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Originally Posted by Tomma
Yes absolutely! Losing control over my environment is a big fear of mine. I want everything "perfect" and according to my plans. Other people bring "chaos" and I feel disturbed, hence I withdraw. My mom is the same, I obviously learned all this from her. She keeps everyone at arms length, including me. I'm trying to loosen up ...
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Ah... We are very similar. I noticed my controlling ways began after my mother's sudden death. I can look back and understand that because her death was out of my control, I felt a need to control everything else. I've come far, but it's still a work in progress.
Regardless, it seems there is always a trigger. Ugh... One more lesson to learn