in limbo

i have been married for 26 yrs and in process of leaving my husband. what lays in store for me over the next few weeks.

I can't really say exactly what may lay in store for you because every relationship is different... but you're definitely going to need loads of love. Treat yourself and remind yourself of the divine beauty that is within. Don't be afraid of being alone, you can do it.

good luck <3

Yes a lot of love is good

26 years is a long time but make sure that it wasn't wasted, us the experiences you obtained to help you if you plan to marry again. Know what you want and just as importantly know what he wants.

Good luck to you

With love Kimi

thankyou for ur replies both of u

Originally Posted by Cosmical

I can't really say exactly what may lay in store for you because every relationship is different... but you're definitely going to need loads of love. Treat yourself and remind yourself of the divine beauty that is within. Don't be afraid of being alone, you can do it.

good luck <3

linda, we can't know your situation, have confidence in yourself, many of us have been through this, for myself it all worked out for the best. I'm happily re-married. It's true that you should take time being alone. good luck.

[psychoslice]

Just do the limbo rock and you'll be right lol.

Embrace your new world, and enjoy this new section to your life!
Think of the positives, like not having to have dinner on the table at a certain time, and not having to wash his knickers :0
Go and do things just for YOU
Love n Luck
XX

Originally Posted by linda_b

i have been married for 26 yrs and in process of leaving my husband. what lays in store for me over the next few weeks.

Welcome.
I am very sorry that you are going through a divorce. 26yrs is .... very long time.
You must be in lots of pain... It must be confusing and scary time for you as well...

Please share your story with us. What happened??
Through your experience, we all learn from it..
Many of us are married and/or divorced.
And hopefully, we can also support you better by understanding your situation.

stress has been building since a few months after we were married. tried to leave several times. just didnt go thru with it. now i have. not divorcing but who knows later on. i kind of think he is relieved.
i just need the peace and quiet as well and think about if a certain person will contact me. i hope he does.

Originally Posted by linda_b

stress has been building since a few months after we were married. tried to leave several times. just didnt go thru with it. now i have. not divorcing but who knows later on. i kind of think he is relieved.
i just need the peace and quiet as well and think about if a certain person will contact me. i hope he does.

So your marriage was not working but somehow it lasted for 26years....
There seems to be someone else.
How does the other person feel about you leaving your marriage?

Just my own personal opinion is that you should focus on healing from your divorce first. Then you can determine if the other man still is someone who you want to be with.

Often when we are in a troubled marriage (I am in one myself), our mind wonders off to another possible relationship that is not true in the physical reality. The idea of the perfect/better relationship is just in our imagination and often far from the actual reality.

That other person has not gone through the daily grinds of the physical/family life with you and has not gone through the life's challenges with you yet.
So, it is easy to form a very romantic image of the other man at the moment.

It is best to have a realistic expectation of the other man and also to re-exam your true feeling for him during your separation.

Most importantly, take care of yourself. This is the time to be selfish and devote your time/energy solely to your healing.
It will be good to do something that would make you to feel whole and independent again.