I'm not even going to confirm this thought with my guidance before I share it. I had some major insight this morning and I think it is the key to my entire twin soul separation. It's not some big "a-ha" moment but to me it... oh my god I just want to weep but I can't because I am at work.
When he first ran he was silent long enough to show me the energy had changed, about two weeks. I finally got him to respond by sending him this song:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aGM3fsJ44Jk
I meant it like... "if you ever did believe in us then you'll give us a chance." Ha! It is ME not believing!!
I am so damn afraid that I am not lovable! IT IS HORRIBLE. I don't know why I feel like this, and I have to get over it. My guidance keeps telling me, "Ignore your gift and your gift ignores you." I know "gift" means love quite often with my guidance so all this time, for weeks now, I have been trying to love him more, hold on to
my love for him. But see that's not it. Ugh. That's not it at all! They have been forcing me to accept and own that
he loves me.
Every time we talk and he says I love you I question it. I pick it apart, inspect it for it's depth and character. Does he mean it? How long will it last? How can he love me? And sometimes I am reassured... other times Spirit will test me in order to push me past this.
This song. I sent it to him months ago with the intention that it's all from me to him. Now I listen to the beginning and that is me: "You left me now and it's seasoned my soul. I continue to build the wall. You were so strong I fell to my knees and I don't think I can handle this at all..."
But I swear the rest of this song after that first few lines is him; it's why I stumbled across it as the first song I sent to him after we separated. It was meant as a message to me.
I thought I was begging him to love me again when I was being told to instead believe in his love. It is so him to me! I've been so wounded. I've doubted his love from the very beginning because it was so huge, so real, so pure and so true. I was terrified of that love, as bad as I wanted it I was so scared to lose it. That it would not last. That he'd just leave and forget me... and holy sheep exactly that is what happened. I never felt anyone could love me like that. And that is my biggest lesson in all of this.
Isn't it funny how insight hits all at once? This entire experience has been to show me my fears of being unlovable, and how much he loves me. It has been the most magical, surreal, "non-reality" situation I could possibly imagine. He is playing this role to push me to believe in love. *face palm* This is why, for years, my guidance told me to "open my heart." I was always confused because I love so hard! I love everyone! But see they meant open my heart to accept love, to believe in it. To believe I AM LOVE AND LOVABLE. When I met my twin I pulled three cards. Each one, EACH ONE, from different decks spoke of opening my heart. And I pulled the special soul mate card, the one that says be open minded because often the one and only soul mate will be packed in ways you don't expect: little bow legged Atheist golf fanatic scientist, lololol. Couldn't be packaged any more off-the-wall for me... and I couldn't ask for anything more. He's perfect.
I wonder what my guidance is going to say to me, lol. "Finally you figured it out?" Even my key song, "Take on Me," points to this- love me please even though I am leaving you soon... but I am going to come back for you.
I am a fighter. I have loved him through all of this but I will tell you something- I am DONE believing that my love is so worthless that someone like my twin soul could love me immensely and then just DROP me overnight. I never did believe it could be true even though it hurt so bad, like my worst nightmares become reality. It always felt orchestrated somehow. But I fear badly sometimes. My past, past lives even, must have really ingrained in me a fear that I am not lovable. Horrible isn't it? I am this little walking ball of love, like a teddy bear come to life. I know I am loveable.
Lately my son keeps telling me, "Mommy I love you so much. You are so sweet and I want to keep you forever." They speak through him you know, all the time. All the time.
My life is UNREAL. I love my twin soul. I know he wants to be with me, wants to love me, wants to be open with me but is playing his role to get me past all of this. Maybe, finally, I can write through this with an understanding of what it's been about. My drinking and all the rest is an offshoot from being afraid I can't ever be loved enough for someone to cherish me and stay with me. NONSENSE. Utter nonsense, and I am done with this big fat monster now.
Thanks for reading. I know there must be others on this forum who feel the same way. I know my twin "ran" not because he was afraid of my love- but to thrust me into The Dark Night of The Soul so I could finally face this. His messages to me on Sunday... I think I understand now. They were my worst nightmare put into words: I want you but I don't love you. You have no idea... that's what twin souls will do if you can't pull yourself out of your fear. They BECOME it so you can see it clearly. They will manifest into your biggest monster so you can't run from it or ignore it. That is the mirroring.
Well I'm not accepting it. I don't believe it nor do I not believe I am lovable.
So there!