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Originally Posted by Ldlf16

It's also pretty normal to deny a connection (whatever you call it) when you're rejected and enraged. That's why I asked if he had been to that place of anger before. I'd be curious to see if it melts away. I mean mine isn't really a love story, more a weird story, with love involved. I had a recent side "love" story (no cheating or affair, but mutual, intense) and it was nooottthing like this. No drama. No jealousy. No weird stuff. No triggering. It's faded over years, instead of growing. It didn't take up my every though. There wasn't hearing his voice in my sleep. So different.

Regarding the "running", just because he didn't get divorced overnight doesn't mean he was shunning her. She started something brand new!? Not even history or obligations, just tied up to another? I think that's classic avoidance.

Rejection and abandonment seem to be big themes on the TF journey. Perhaps she felt both. None of us can know for sure. And some people, when they feel rejected and abandoned, tend to look for a band-aid relationship to try to cover up their pain. That was never my case but I can understand how she probably thought that moving on swiftly was her best bet of freeing herself from something she too didn’t understand and probably didn’t want to be a part of since the man she loved was not in a place where he could make any kind of decision that would honor and value her as she deserves to be loved and valued.