Cheating

Hugs, I understand your hurt.

Some people "deal" (or perhaps NOT deal) with breakups, or other heart aches by jumping into another relationship...to distract them from the pain.

meaning, I doubt he was cheating AT you...but probably just doing what he felt would address, lessen, or mask his own pain.

Not that you are a dog, but you know how sometimes people tell someone who lost a pet to quickly go out and get a new puppy or kitten to fill the empty space in their heart? Lots of people suggest the same to someone after a breakup...get back out there...etc etc.

Or sometimes it's a case of what are you going to do? If life has to go on, and we have to move on...then move on, wallowing in sorrow won't change anything.

Those are the sort of thoughts that go through many people's heads. It is not a statement on the significance of the previous relationship, it is just their way of ordering their own life.

but yeah, hugs...believe me I KNOW how you are feeling. been there myself.

Hello ColourfulLeaf.

Originally Posted by ColorfulLeaf

Hello. I am a newbie.

Sometimes I see him in my dreams and start to wonder why? Why I ended this relationship? Do I want him back? He was my first boyfriend after all and he is gonna always stick to my mind...

..............How to get rid of the thought of cheating? I feel affection for him not love.

Thanks
Greetings from Colorful Leaf

I'm bound to say that as you ended the relationship he can hardly be cheating. He may have been reacting - on the rebound. It happens. You get rid of the thought of him cheating by taking responsibility for the break up. Cut your losses and think not to be so swift next time.

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Originally Posted by ColorfulLeaf

Hello. I am a newbie.

Many years ago i had a boyfriend. I was madly in love with him. As soon as we split up, he cheated on me. I mean I still had feelings for him, but he moved on so quickly. We were together for 4 years. Everytime I think of him...cheating comes to my mind.
I have tried to get rid of it, cuz its not a cheating, but it still hurts.

Sometimes I see him in my dreams and start to wonder why? Why I ended this relationship? Do I want him back? He was my first boyfriend after all and he is gonna always stick to my mind...

After we split up, he had one very long relationship, shorter than ours but long.
Now he is single again.

How to get rid of the thought of cheating? I feel affection for him not love.

Thanks
Greetings from Colorful Leaf

Hope you learned your lesson. He didn't cheat, and it will never be considered cheating as you were separated . Keep in mind you broke up with him ( for a reason that was serious enough to end a 4 yr relationship) don't feel guilt or sadness, this is what you wanted angel, now we need to accept our current position.