In response to earlier post...Why are there .....

Someone had posted the question Why are there so many post on T/F? I cannot recall where I saw the post so my reply is here:

Get your question as I sometimes have been astonished at the amount of posts & threads in one week compared to other posts.
For me, it simply sums up how the song goes "Everyone's looking for love"....Soo.. many just want to be loved, for some its powerful, with finding a connection....be it unwittingly their anima/animus or the family or if it cannot provide the love they seek (which may be too idealistic), or a Mr.Right.
People need love but it dosen't have to be in the elusive perfect partner picture. Some people are perhaps indirectly in love 'with love'. Then there's some who later on regret the many missed opportunities because they were looking for Mr.Right.
I think people on a subconscious level decide whether to love this person or not & once they do , it becomes a mindset that revolves around the other person, its like they're made a deep committment unto themselves.

I'm one of those who believes it is possible to love others unconditionally - in that one appreciates and admires all that a person is, no matter what their habits even if a bit of an offput; that one cherishes what the person brings/gives to one....and it comes without demands or possessiveness (except as dictated by practicalities - one likes to think one can depend on someone in matters such as reliability, predictability).

Of course, boundaries have to be drawn - I won't tolerate a violent disposition nor self-pity as a matter of habit. Some people may justify a degree of self-pity but those who think others should pity them the whole while, no. And I can't accommodate a deceitful nature; a liar.

However, apart from those few ifs and buts an outreaching love with no demands attached seems to assuage a "need" to be loved because that happens within the relationships one cultivates.

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