When you meet someone and everything around you fades away?

[Plumeria]

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Is there a reason for that? I've only ever experienced it with one person. They came up to me and literally, everything and everyone else in the room just completely disappeared, and all I could see was this person's face. Like, I was vaguely aware that there were other people around me, and I could very faintly hear people talking, but it just literally faded away. It honestly took a moment to come back to reality and remember where I even was and realize what had just happened.

Why does that happen and what does it mean? And do both people get that sensation or is it one-sided? I don't think I've ever had that experience with anyone else in my life.

Hope that made sense.

[wolfgaze]

Originally Posted by Plumeria

Welcome! It's time for Plumeria's weekly question in the LOVE section! ;) lol

Hahaha... The Plume Diaries

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I have not personally experienced this effect/sensation but I can imagine it happening... Intense perceptual focus/attention on one stimulus would completely dull awareness for everything else in the vicinity....

And yes - you're normal....

[Plumeria]

Originally Posted by wolfgaze

And yes - you're normal....

Hahaha well... that's debatable.

[Clover]

The better question; whatcha' gonna do about it?


Keyword: Action

[Plumeria]

Originally Posted by Clover

The better question; whatcha' gonna do about it?


Keyword: Action

I... I dunno.

This is going to sound random but there's a reason for this story. I contacted someone 2 weeks ago with a question and never got a response. I figured they weren't interested in helping, and I felt a little annoyed. After nearly a week, I thought about messaging them and asking if they'd gotten my phone call. Something in my gut told me not to. Literally the next day, I got a return call from them explaining why they hadn't gotten a chance to get back to me yet, and that they'd love to help. And I was really glad I had listened to that voice and hadn't messaged them.

I can send this person a message. Every time I click on the "Send ___ a message" button, my stomach tenses up and I get that same feeling I got with the other person. It's not like the world is going to end if I do it, but it's just this quiet voice saying, "Hold off on that for a bit..."

I honestly do know this feeling and it manifested as a delicious ripping apart of the senses in my stomach and a bit like the Tony meets Maria moment in West Side Story.... Thankfully there wasn't the horrid destruction of that moment but alas it came to nothing. Me just raising my hopes, setting my sights not-so-much too high but got the range wrong! I'd write poems...couldn't for some reason write music for it, just moped around listening to soppy songs, having visions.

Hopelessly romantic but it never came my way again. Memory still intact and it doesn't seem so distant but it is. This isn't the first time reading your posts that that memory has blossomed in a sort-of yearning shade of coral pink. An utterly happy hope-filled evening that faded with a sad sigh and longing.

I shall look forward to your broadcasts!

[Plumeria]

Originally Posted by Lorelyen

...but alas it came to nothing. Me just raising my hopes, setting my sights not-so-much too high but got the range wrong!

That's exactly what I'm afraid of. If nothing comes out of this, it's gonna take me a long time to forget about this one... It's become manageable (usually) but honestly it's not going away.

Originally Posted by Lorelyen

Hopelessly romantic but it never came my way again. Memory still intact and it doesn't seem so distant but it is. This isn't the first time reading your posts that that memory has blossomed in a sort-of yearning shade of coral pink. An utterly happy hope-filled evening that faded with a sad sigh and longing.

Aww. I'm sorry. Sending you hugs! I think I understand how you must feel.


Time for a story! *sits cross-legged on floor*
I saw this guy again recently, briefly. Didn't get to chat or anything, just saw him from a distance. That whole day, I was in a bad mood about something else, and was irritated with everything. So we get there, and at first I saw a guy who looked similar to him, and initially I thought it was him, but something about his vibe wasn't quite right. I didn't feel it. And then a minute later I saw him, the *right* guy, and suddenly it was this wave of peace. Like everything in the world was okay again. We had to leave to go run an errand, which I was bummed about. As we're leaving, I saw him laughing at a stunt one of his friends pulled. And that smile... it literally changed my entire mood in an instant. All of a sudden I felt light and happy and I was kind of gushing about him to my friend. I felt silly talking like that but honestly it just hits me like a brick every time I see him. But basically that told me that it's not just his looks (even though he is extremely handsome.) Because that other guy who looked pretty similar to him just didn't feel right. That other guy didn't give me the same feeling at all.

I mean, honestly, seeing him smile (not even at me!!) immediately makes me smile? That can't be good.

When we came back a little while later, he came into the room 3 times in less than a minute, glancing toward me every time. I can only assume that he must still feel some sort of attraction towards me because he's the only guy that does a double-take (if not triple) every single time he sees me. Even when - maybe especially when - I haven't seen him in several weeks.


My gut says soon he's going to just ask me flat-out if I'm interested. My mind is the one that starts worrying and thinking I'm screwing up by not doing anything. But when I think about acting on it I just feel this gut resistance telling me to wait.

[Lutonja86]

Lol, this happened to me just once and long ago. I don't think I was older than 16.

We were inside a bus, probably not the first time, but this was the first time we noticed eachother and when the eyes met everything went black except her,
the sound was completely gone too.

It was weird, I don't know what she experienced but I guess something, because later if she noticed me arriving on the station while she was already on the bus she went out on the next station and hoped on my ride, always standing next or close... and I acted like i don't see her because i was reealllly insecure and afraid to say something.

Lol, she basicly did everything, my part was just to say hy :-D

[Plumeria]

Originally Posted by Lutonja86

Lol, this happened to me just once and long ago. I don't think I was older than 16.

So nothing ever came out of it? That's seeming to be common.... I can't deal with that. No way. I have to know what this is.

Originally Posted by Lutonja86

We were inside a bus, probably not the first time, but this was the first time we noticed eachother and when the eyes met everything went black except her,
the sound was completely gone too.

Exactly. In my case, what was also weird is moments BEFORE he came up to me, the sound disappeared. I said something to my friend and my voice was REALLY loud and all of the other sound faded away. It's like when you're wearing ear plugs. But I wasn't. And it was both ears, simultaneously, and it disappeared as soon as he left the room. Looking back, I think it was some kind of energy fluctuation. Very weird.

Originally Posted by Lutonja86

... and I acted like i don't see her because i was reealllly insecure and afraid to say something.

I'm afraid that that's what my situation is right now. Any tips?

[Lutonja86]

Don't repeat my mistake :-D

This never happened with anyone again.
Last time she tried and I acted...well like me, she exhaled like she was dissapointed (she was litteraly next to me) and from there on those encounters got rare to no more.
I saw her about 6 years ago, she had a little daughter.

Life goes on, so I wish for you to have courage to make a move :-D