Man/ Women Threads What dont you want in another?

[Silver]

Originally Posted by WhiteShaman

If i was in the position to want or not want I would say that:

I don't want anyone who doesn't want me just the way I am....lol

I also don't want anyone that makes a list of what they want or don't want....lol

James

Ahh! Hah! Funny man ~ I like funny men ~ ups, already taken!

[BlueSky]

Originally Posted by Saggi

Absolutely, I totally agree with you!

It was a counterpost!

What the realisation will become is what we deserve!

Which is neither want nor don't want, need nor don't need,,,,

It would happen naturally with love!

Love and hugs

Jo

XxXx

Yeah, I mean if a woman or man has a list...then that seems like it would be a lot of pressure on their mate to maintain and keep their position as the other persons mate....lol...............I need the freedom to grow within a relationship on a personal level as well as together.

My God what if one gets fat and being fit is on the list!!!!!!!LOL

It seems that the OP's list would cover just about anyone...

There's something about this thread that seems so... off. There's no point in making a list. Anyone you are ever going to be with is going to have some kind of problem or habit that you aren't going to like. It could range from really bad to just a surface issue, but there are always problems in a relationship. (Not always as in non-stop, but there will always be a disagreement here or there.)

The goal is not to find someone that won't ever disappoint you. The goal is to find someone you love unconditionally, and loves you back the same way-- which means embracing some bad habits, and respecting each other enough to work on them.

Are we basing this list off of ideals that we've never had, or past experiences in relationship? How many people here have ever actually been in a long term relationship with these issues described?

Relationships have so many levels... and making a list like this severely lowers the amount of people we may actually seek out and love in our lives, just based off of initial judgements.

I'm sure many of us posting here have some of these undesireable habits andproblems mentioned. No one is perfect. I am flawed-- I have probably committed every offense on anybody's list, to some degree, give or take a few. Does that mean I should not expect anyone to want to love me?

Everyone needs love.

[BlueSky]

Originally Posted by Silvergirl

Ahh! Hah! Funny man ~ I like funny men ~ ups, already taken!

Behind every happy, funny man is a good woman and she has the power to change all that........LOL

[Silver]

Originally Posted by WhiteShaman

Behind every happy, funny man is a good woman and she has the power to change all that........LOL

In my dating days, met lots, only a couple could really make me laugh and laugh at the same things ~ priceless!

[Saggi]

Originally Posted by WhiteShaman

Yeah, I mean if a woman or man has a list...then that seems like it would be a lot of pressure on their mate to maintain and keep their position as the other persons mate....lol...............I need the freedom to grow within a relationship on a personal level as well as together.

My God what if one gets fat and being fit is on the list!!!!!!!LOL

Exactly!

Lists are rules, rules = control, control isn't love, love = freedom

Love and hugs

Jo

XxXx

Originally Posted by WhiteShaman

If i was in the position to want or not want I would say that:

I don't want anyone who doesn't want me just the way I am....lol

I also don't want anyone that makes a list of what they want or don't want....lol

James

You can view it as "making lists" if you wish. I believe the effort was to express what qualities make a woman happy in relationship with a man The men who don't possess those traits are not being asked to acquire them. Women who find them to be appealing and provide the deepest sort of satisfaction in a healthy and functional relationship must seek out men who DO... that's all. I think it's important to assess what is conducive to happiness and to claim those things.

[Smiler]

White Shaman ..

Quote: If i was in the position to want or not want I would say that:

I don't want anyone who doesn't want me just the way I am....lol

I also don't want anyone that makes a list of what they want or don't want....lol

With Respect My friend ..we have posts on what people would like ..this is just what they wouldn't..its not Gender Specific ..And since you have a deeply loving relationship that although not perfect . I don't think you have to think about what you don't want!

And Hey I don't walk around with a list in my pocket ..lol


Peace and blessings
:)

[Silver]

Originally Posted by Smiler

And Hey I don't walk around with a list in my pocket ..lol


:)

I strongly suspect there are those women (and men) who have a list in their heads, if not in their pockets, but Idk which ones are the unluckiest, those whose lists get tossed when they meet someone and are smitten one way or another, visually and/or 'vibe-wise or chemistry-wise'.

[BlueSky]

I have changed so much over the years that there just isn't a list that can contain me!...lol
My wife changes her hair color just to keep up.