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Originally Posted by Lilstar07
How can I encourage him to talk to me and let all these feelings out, without him using his anger?
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Healing is not about
talking.. healing is about
letting go of your problems..
There is nothing you can do ever to make a person
heal.. that is a fact!
And if you try to force yourself you can only make you and him
worse..
not better..
What you need to do is simple.. be the best you! Put out the best vibration of love for yourself that you can.. and hope that he can match it.. anything less, is you
lowering yor vibration and being caught in his
cycle..
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Originally Posted by Lilstar07
I know he needs to talk but I need him to talk without saying mean things to me not just because its hurtful
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This is the whole problem.. how well are you holding your space??
Because if you "feel" or "hear" hurtful things from him.. your not holding it well
at all.. your allowing his energy to affect your mood..
Have you ever been in a great mood before and someone comes up to you and says? "$#^#$^#$ you" "or you suck!" or anything like that?
And all the sudden your mood is gone.. cause your
responding to this
hostility..
There is a point where you hold yourself together and you are no longer in "reaction" or reacted to by anything people say.. it's not a easy point to get too.. but very BENIFICIAL to you!
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Originally Posted by Lilstar07
He needs to stop before it gets worse.
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No, you need to stop before
you get worse.. you can't
force fix people..
you can..
but you can't!
The most important journey on the planet is the "self" journey.. making others more important than your self can drop you into a world of hurt..
He is your friend or
more.. I get that.. you care about him.. I get that.. but people have a right to make their own choices be they "negative" or "positive" that is there right via "free will"
Why are you not respecting his choices?
When the time comes and he wants to turn around from being "negative" and hating the world.. that is the time to be of
assistance until than.. your really "
meddling"
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Originally Posted by Lilstar07
He seems to be in a big battle with himself at the moment.
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All battles are with the self.. everything else is "illusion"
Have you ever tried explaining to your friend.. "law of attraction" and being responsible for what he created/allowed.. all these so called "abuses"?
See the reason why he feels like sh%$ is cause he is busy in denial and anger about things that if he'd just look at.. and accept responsibility and say "I allowed that" "I created that"
I didn't really like it.. but I can look at it from this empowered state that I create my reality and allowed this to happen.. there is no power in playing "the victim" there is power in accepting responsibility for the events and actions that happened to you/around you.. and then going..
I prefer to
create this now..
Have you ever considered mentioning this.. or would he just throw a temper tantrum..?? you can't help people that don't want to be helped.. and you can't feed them information that will empower them and make them feel better unless they
allow
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Originally Posted by Lilstar07
I still believe we both had and still do have a lot of old cobwebs and baggage that was not cleared
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Yes, very good statement.. make sure that you look to
yourself.. and
your baggage not your friends..
I say again..
Hold the
best vibration you possibly can.. be the LIGHTHOUSE that shines I love myself.. and that reflection/that vibration you will offer to every person you see.. just as I offer it to you
And each time you offer it.. you give others a chance to "raise" there vibration..
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Originally Posted by Lilstar07
I During the journey that we was on he came across further difficulties in his life , his friend died tragically and he had a bad breakup with his girlfriend. After this its like his life has been chaos since.
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This is his baggage.. physically manifested in his life.. it's really for him to deal with and
look at..
Understand that when you heal a person.. you don't heal them!
They heal themselves.. you simple hold a space/a vibration and then they join you.. but that is still choice!
You can offer comfort to your friend and a healing vibration.. but they don't have to take it.. don't know how many times I have to say that