Cracking under the pressure

[AstralJosh]

I have been resisting/moving away from the traditional ways of socialising at University which
mostly involved staying out late consuming large amounts of alcoholic and engaging in
reckless behaviour.

I just don't say this from an ivory tower, having engaged in my fair share of this nonsense
last year was enough for me to say enough now.

The thing is, especially on a Friday night, the lack of connection i feel starts to bubble
up again, i look at old photos of me having fun with my friend while out.

Is seems like such a positive engagement with people around me when i see the photos
and begin to feel the feelings of joy and connection being around my friends when out
but i know the story that it doesn't show 'mistakes made/recklessness, health issues,
a lot more'.

This lack feels so great at times when i having engaged in the behaviour for a while so i
don't have a recent memory to ward me off it if that makes sense.

Apologies for the slightly unhelpful rant but i thought the healing thread would be appropriate
for such a thing.

TL;DR Feel a lack of connection because i am not going out partying/clubbing like everyone else is.

If anyone feels compelled to send me some healing energy I would be much appreciative
and any advice anyone wishes to impart.

Nam,

Josh

Sending kind, loving...healing energy to you Josh

The thing is you do not have to drink and do things that is not you to participate in these events. If you wish to participate then find a way to participate so they balance you instead of the old ways that made you unbalanced in the length.

[Tobi]

You want to have fun with your friends, but you have the intelligence not to want to wreck your body. It figures. Yes it's difficult, but you can be straight-up with them...? I they are real true friends, they might laugh and chide you but they'll respect what you want. You can go to a bar or go clubbing, and have fun on a Friday night, and don't have to drink much. You don't have to do the "shots" thing, just have a couple of pints. If they laugh -say straight why you're not doing that. Laugh with them, say you're a nerd -whatever. But stick to it.
Occasionally I like to go out partying etc too. (not very often now -I might be a rockin' Faerie but I'm in my dotage! LOL!) And I might have 2-3 drinks, then that's me done. I turn to fizzy water whether people like it or not. That's my business. I can still have a good time without getting off my head.

Originally Posted by AstralJosh

I have been resisting/moving away from the traditional ways of socialising at University which
mostly involved staying out late consuming large amounts of alcoholic and engaging in
reckless behaviour.

I just don't say this from an ivory tower, having engaged in my fair share of this nonsense
last year was enough for me to say enough now.

The thing is, especially on a Friday night, the lack of connection i feel starts to bubble
up again, i look at old photos of me having fun with my friend while out.

Is seems like such a positive engagement with people around me when i see the photos
and begin to feel the feelings of joy and connection being around my friends when out
but i know the story that it doesn't show 'mistakes made/recklessness, health issues,
a lot more'.

This lack feels so great at times when i having engaged in the behaviour for a while so i
don't have a recent memory to ward me off it if that makes sense.

Apologies for the slightly unhelpful rant but i thought the healing thread would be appropriate
for such a thing.

TL;DR Feel a lack of connection because i am not going out partying/clubbing like everyone else is.

If anyone feels compelled to send me some healing energy I would be much appreciative
and any advice anyone wishes to impart.

Nam,

Josh

Pray for HIGH Quality friends ....... you WILL be guided to them~

I was where you are ........ they hated me because I chose a different Way~ They hated Jesus Too....... so what! Move on ........ you will be happy as they are crunched in accidents and disaster.

[AstralJosh]

Originally Posted by Tobi

You want to have fun with your friends, but you have the intelligence not to want to wreck your body. It figures. Yes it's difficult, but you can be straight-up with them...? I they are real true friends, they might laugh and chide you but they'll respect what you want. You can go to a bar or go clubbing, and have fun on a Friday night, and don't have to drink much. You don't have to do the "shots" thing, just have a couple of pints. If they laugh -say straight why you're not doing that. Laugh with them, say you're a nerd -whatever. But stick to it.
Occasionally I like to go out partying etc too. (not very often now -I might be a rockin' Faerie but I'm in my dotage! LOL!) And I might have 2-3 drinks, then that's me done. I turn to fizzy water whether people like it or not. That's my business. I can still have a good time without getting off my head.

Thanks Tobi, and others who sent me positive words and healing.

I think this will be the best approach to take, stick vigilantly to a couple as to phase in a new style
of being out, rather than go from one extreme to cutting it out all together and throwing the
baby out with the bathwater as it were.

I like the 'that's my business' part to avoid the 'i don't drink' buzz-kill talk, good substitute.

I think you and Racer touch on a very important point, in the long run it's about finding
people you can connect with on a true and limitless level. I'll look into prayers for connection also.

[Tobi]

Yes, why not "phase in a new style" ? That's a great way of putting it. You can choose your own style.
Even if mixing with people you don't happen to connect with on a true and limitless level (as we all have to do in life) -you can still live by your own style.