Avoidance and Denial

[Lucyan28]

Originally Posted by Ivy

I would make one differentiation here - to avoid something within oneself can only really be a temporary break before it becomes dishonesty to the self and denial of self (never helpful in my view). But to avoid an external person/situation, yet be in open acknowledgement of why we are choosing to avoid that, could be called discernment of choice. I would add though, that discernment comes without criticism or blame of the external situation - choice is a responsibility to self. And with self-responsibility, discernment changes in each moment and requires ongoing work to maintain the deep self-honesty to make the right choices.

Hi Ivy, this is nice. Every action (avoidance in this case) has a positive part and a negative part. I think that discernment is the positive blossoming from avoidance, which is a good thing after all.

[Lucyan28]

Originally Posted by A human Being

I think avoidance and denial may help to bury memories, but that's the opposite to letting them go. I think really, you've got to become conscious of whatever it is that triggers the memory - a recurring memory can be a useful pointer to the sadness, fear, or whatever it is that's underlying it, but if you bury the memory, you bury the cause, too, and it remains unresolved.

Just my two cents.

Hi A Human Being,

To bury memories is like burying bombs, we never know when they will explode. Perhaps our higher-self (consciousness) chooses to bury them (deny) when they are too painful for the current person's mind phase.

Whenever the consciousness is ready to fight those painful memories then that is the moment.

There is a moment to plant and there is a moment to harvest.

[Lucyan28]

Originally Posted by lemex

Something I realized thinking about consciousness is parts of consciousness can be just as hidden as the subconscious. For a long time I've said, the brain will do what it needs to, to protect you. It works to achieve balance. Of course these are my thoughts.

Hi Lemex, the brain works fine sometimes, but sometimes our very brain works in ways that destroy us, which is madness or a malfunction

It is quite interesting why we can develop auto-destructive patterns and personalities, I don't know if they are linked with avoidance and denial, but it is worth to analyze them.

Some mental behaviors should be healed, I hope that psychology will get more tools to heal our madness.

[Lucyan28]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

I have not met avoidance and denial so much.

I am very acquainted with my inner guidance system and intentional focus...
which someone could call avoidance, ha!

In my younger years I was also very acquainted with shame, anger, and blame...I didn't deny much...
more beat myself up....decades ago anyway.

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But, WAIT! I avoid and deny or distract and put off...Total and complete ''enlightenment' or
my True Self 100%!
Dah.

Hi Miss Hepburn, all those feeling like shame, anger and blame taught us some important lessons in the end, and that's how we can improve our system guidance.

It would be nice to have mechanics for our guidance system

Originally Posted by Lucyan28

Hi Ivy, this is nice. Every action (avoidance in this case) has a positive part and a negative part. I think that discernment is the positive blossoming from avoidance, which is a good thing after all.

You're right that every action can heal or harm (help us or hinder us) - discernment is knowing the difference and wisdom is knowing the key that will make an action be beneficial in some way.

[naturesflow]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

naturesflow, I just saw your signature...

"Bᴇ sᴛɪʟʟ beyond belief."
I was just closing up to meditate...WHAT an inspiration.
Thankthankthank you.

Happy to inspire for free. ..