Do we put too much energy into soul connections?

Element 5 · #1 20-02-2013, 04:58 PM

It came to mind this morning while driving to work...Do we put too much thought and energy into our soul connection? Do we focus too much on understanding the relationship/absence of the relationship...or why we are made aware of our SC/TF to begin with? I think it's easy to get swept away in the magic of it all and we want to know so badly what will happen or why we feel this way. So, do we lose sight of our own purpose or the person we should be striving to be, because we focus too much on him/her? It seems to me that if we evaluate the 'behind the scenes' of it all too much, it will simply leave us feeling more frustrated instead of moving forward on our own personal path.

Just some thoughts to ponder.

#2 20-02-2013, 05:17 PM

Must be in the water bc I've been feeling this way for the last two days. Ready to move on already from all of this. If, when and ever she comes around then I can figure out the next step. But all this what if, will she, how will is not only exhausting but I feel like a hamster running around on the same wheel. Frustrating.

#3 20-02-2013, 05:40 PM

A 1000x yes!!! I'm so emotionally drained, yet I cannot escape the connection...I wish I could hibernate for the next six months & have some peace & shut my brain off!

Element 5 · #4 20-02-2013, 05:49 PM

I like the hamster wheel idea. This is what it can feel like. I think it's important, for me at least, to focus on bettering myself and setting and achieving goals that have nothing to do with him. The rest of it will happen as it may, but I can't give everything over to him...I need to make me #1. He can be on the list...just not at the top of it.
While I'm awake anyway ; )

Sarian · #5 20-02-2013, 05:58 PM

I have no idea. This guy I'm with can put me through hell and back and does sometimes (and I him)...we can drive each other nuts, but we also bring out the best in each other. Go figure. Two days ago I wanted nothing more than to get away from him. I couldnt stand the thought of being with him a moment longer and honestly just wanted to be alone. Next day I wake up and he's just such a part of my life, and our down times are really stupid, but each time we think that's it, we realize just what we do have and there we are again and stronger than ever.

Must be a sickness.

#6 20-02-2013, 06:07 PM

I think that is the very lesson to learn with tf connections! Its so easy for someone not going through this to say just get on with your life, work on yourself. When all u can do is think about this person, feel them so strongly. Its like having a cold and pretending that u feel completely well no fever no cough ...
But yes there has to be a middle! Which we will all find while enjoying the love we feel for our beloved and ourselves!

frenchbread · #7 20-02-2013, 06:24 PM

I feel I put too much energy when I am wanting a change or an outcome to occur right away on my time or when I am trying hard to figure him out. Then I tell myself I am holding too tightly and need to let it be. Some days are easier and sometimes I catch myself doing this so that is when I tell myself to chill out and get off the computer lol.

VanillaRayne · #8 20-02-2013, 06:26 PM

Yeah I definitely feel this way as well. When you put so much mental and emotional energy into any one specific thing, you lose sight of pretty much everything else. I was guilty of this for a long time with mine. Now that I've gotten back to me, I seem to have a lot more energy in general, and I seem to be much happier overall. It's definitely one of the hardest lessons of all when it comes to a SC. I realize now that the purpose of the connection has nothing to do with romance and everything to do with self-improvement.

Element 5 · #9 20-02-2013, 06:41 PM

It truly is NOT easy. But, I just have to keep reminding myself to keep my focus on my goals, etc. It's normal to get wrapped up in it all, regardless of what stage I'm in or what my experiences are.

smARTistic girl · #10 20-02-2013, 06:52 PM

Yes. But I'll propose that I put more into it when it's not around... meaning when we don't see each other regularly. When we talk often (at least two or three times a week), I don't find myself obsessing over the whole "what does it mean??" thing. :) Just my experience.