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Originally Posted by Seawolf
I do it so much that it's starting to become natural like you say. I think I understand why they say in the bible to 'pray without ceasing'. It's not about being desperate or trying to 'arrive' like I used to think of that verse, it's like breathing. I want to keep it up so it becomes natural like that.
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One part of why it becomes easier is you are changing thought habits.
And it's also why it's hard at the beginning.
Change\transformation..and the uncomfortable sensations felt in doing so, even if you are conscious, willing and joyful about changing to a positive state.
When I was in the psych ward in 2008, I had a few sessions with the psychologist.
The gave this simple example of why one part of why change is difficult.
He asked me to fold my arms. I did so with complete ease. It was natural for me. I fold with right arm over left.
He then said to fold left arm over right.
Not only did my brain struggle with positioning my left over my right, but once i finally figured it out,
with arms folded in this new position, it felt really ncomfortable...unnatural.
Changing long term ingrained thought habits...perhasp you can envision the difficulties and the uncomfortableness of these endeavours.
And why perseverence reduces both of them.
One is transitioning from one natural state to another, and it's the season of change, the transition phase that produces the most discomfort.
My son, pre-teens...boy did he struggle with learning a new skill.
He envisioned, had the ideal in his mind as to what he wanted to achieve, learning a new trick on his bmx as a clear example i can recall.
He would watch other kids do this trick, imagined it in his mind that he could do this,
but when attempting it, failed time and time again.
And it was during this learning transition phase that he became upset with himself because he expected reality to match his inner ideal of being able to do this trick.
In his mind, while observing others, he concluded this was easy to do.
But what he did not have prior knowledge of was the actual experience, the ability to co ordinate his mind and body to be able to successfully do this trick.
He was not experienced, due to age, that learning a new skill requires practice, from learning from one's mistakes when attempting said trick,
from observing and evaluating each effort and reasoning what needs changing and adjusting and continuing the triall and error process till the desired result is obtained.
Within these types of learning experiences he became more aware of himself, his mind, his body, how his upset emotions cloud his reasoning and ability and desire to continue learning.
By mid to late teens he had already surpassed me in the abilty to create his own life and change what needed changing.
I began my self mastery mid 30's..Imma so proud of my son that he began his in his teen years.
Same with my dawta, she too was doing so in her mid teens.
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