How should I act with my married twin flame?

Tiredofthis · #1 20-09-2016, 08:28 PM

I have known my twin flame for 7 years now.. He is married and has two kids. We have been in contact almost daily for several years but have only seen each other once every couple years. He lives in a different country and I could visit him more frequently from now on and meet secretly for a couple of days each time.. Seeing him makes me the happiest I've been in my life. Should I keep meeting him when I can or is no contact preferable since it doesn't seem like his situation is going to change for now?

Marie · #2 20-09-2016, 08:34 PM

You should respect his partner and his relationship. As ling as they are together.

Katastrophic · #3 21-09-2016, 02:54 AM

I would personally not do anything "secretly" or anything behind his wife's back. My twin is married and he has two kids and I'm married as well and we never do anything to disrespect our spouses. It would be different if he were at least honest with her about meeting up with you.

#4 21-09-2016, 07:01 AM

Hello, Tiredofthis.

A sincere answer from me?

I have little time for this soft adultery. If he were not married and had no children it would be whatever you choose but remember you're in a position to destroy his family and disrupt the kids' futures - all because of a selfish desire as witnessed by your need to to keep it secret. Men tend to be rather weak.

If you must, do as Kasatrophic suggests and bring it into the open. Then he'll learn of his wife's response. He could end up with divorce on his hands and a financially and emotionally expensive settlement. Then again, she may not care, secure enough in her situation.
But here you are on a spiritual forum. Have a browse. Consideration for the welfare of others is one of the things one picks up here (and for that matter, why I'm replying as I am.) Sorry I can't be more conciliatory.

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jro5139 · #5 21-09-2016, 12:22 PM

Have you tried bringing it up with him and asking if he is willing to tell her the truth? Is he staying for the kids?
Personally if I was married and my partner met someone else, I would rather they be honest and tell me than play me for a fool.
I agree a lot of men are weak, not the men on here, but the men who are still in 3D are weak. I think lots of women are weak too though. I don't get those women that find out their man cheated and they act like they don't care or they aren't married yet and their man cheats and THEN they marry them... that seems very weak to me. Personally for me, that would be a deal breaker. Sorry that has always bothered me, just had to rant:) Anyway, since you don't seem happy to run around I would ask him if he's willing to tell the truth.

Tiredofthis · #6 21-09-2016, 02:02 PM

His wife found out but they are still together.. He wouldn't want his wife to find out again. I know the situation seems ridiculous from the outside and from every side.. We haven't been able to stop contact for more than 10 months these last four years. We slept together twice. I could not see him again in years but not sure I could do the no contact at all.. We've both tried and as mentioned, it was 10 months and always had him in the back of my mind. He says if he gets divorced he won't see his kids.

Clover · #7 21-09-2016, 02:56 PM

Wife will always be number one priority, his entire life is centered around his family and providing for them. Of course he will see his children if divorced, he is entitled by law. It is more likely he won't divorce his wife because be will have to pay up, do you want to wait for his kids to turn 18 to get your free chance to jump in? How much of your soul are you willing to sacrafice to this man whose made no sacrifices for you?

I would be more willing to bet that this man simply loves his family and does not want to lose them which is often the case contrary to what they may tell you. No one wants their family to break or fall apart. The truth of the matter is, he is making it work with his wife..and your letting him have his cake and eat it too..

Just my two cents on the matter

Sarian · #8 21-09-2016, 03:48 PM

She found out and they are still together, and you still want contact with him? It doesn't sound like you are all that important..good to have on the side for his emotional affair with you. Sex when he can get away.. I honestly think it sounds more of an addiction and emotional affair...someone on the side waiting and to stroke his ego. The divorce and not seeing his kids, to me, sounds like an excuse to keep you on the hook and waiting. Do you even date or take care of yourself?

Honestly, I see and hear so many men like this, they will say anything to a woman to get them in their corner...like a secret playmate.

I say unload him, free yourself, find someone available and who will truly make you happy....and truly love you.

Awakened Queen · #9 21-09-2016, 05:46 PM

I think it's your lesson to learn to establish boundaries for yourself so people don't take advantage of you. You won't learn the lesson until you actually do it. That's why it's been going on for seven years. The Universe has nothing but time. This guy takes what he wants from you and you allow it. By using the label "twin flame", you're trying to excuse his and your behavior.

bees · #10 22-09-2016, 06:21 AM

Why use the phrase "twin flame" - so much possibility for projection in that phrase..I think.