Really needing clarity.....

[loulou1986]

Hi! Just wanted to drop in and say i am/was in a near identical situation to you so i absolutely understand your confusion at this time. I dont really have any advice to offer im afraid as i, like you have a young family that i dont want to break apart. However alot of people have given great advice on here and sometimes even just getting it all out can help. Try and take D out of the equation here. Look at your marriage closely and without any regard for your feelings for D. Can it be fixed, afterall it takes two people to make or break a relationship. Your husband has played just as much a part in your problems so dont beat yourself up about it failing. Just try and think clearly and make a decision independently from any feelings you might have for another.
Feel free to read some of my threads too. I got alot of great help from them and feel free to message anytime. Like i said. I understand!!