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16-09-2017, 07:54 PM
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Tourmaline wedding ring instead of diamond
My wife and I have been together for many years, but are not officially married. We are planning on doing that in the near future and are now shopping around for wedding rings.
We have decided that instead of diamond we are going to get each other tourmaline as the main stone. Tourmaline can be quite high-end and expensive in it's own right, and we both think it would be more interesting and more to what we like.
I just thought you guys would find this interesting maybe. We have looked at many with 18K gold bands, with tourmaline stones in the 5-10 carat range. I was thinking probably red or purple tourmaline for her, and probably green or pariba blue tourmaline for mine.
My wife just loves tourmaline, makes her feel happy, and I like the idea of getting something different and vintage, something from a different time period. Tourmaline made a huge splash in the 20's and 30's and there is some really interesting pieces from great artists.
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16-09-2017, 09:47 PM
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Diamonds are forever :)
The only problem I can see is a Mohs scale hardness, which is quite low for that purpose, not more than 7,5. That means it can be damaged...
Blue tourmaline (indicolite) is also my favored :)
Tourmalines of all types have good durability, but not good as diamonds.
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17-09-2017, 05:54 AM
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It's a good point that you make about the hardness of the stones. I think it's still our choice because of how much she loves tourmaline. Considering that these vintage rings have survived throughout the years, tourmaline must be at least not too bad for durability, and I think it would also depend on the type of setting. Some settings I see as very safe and others I see almost looking for trouble.
She actually doesn't even like the ones with diamonds as accents, she wants a good quality gold band with a solid and single large tourmaline stone. Something large but not gaudy. I am not too picky but I would like to get one that has a fairly large stone for myself, at least 5 to 10 carats like I said. I don't think I would spend as much on mine as I would on her. I just think they have some personality and it would be something out of the ordinary. Some of these rings are as expensive as a good diamond ring would be.
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13-10-2017, 05:53 AM
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Originally Posted by Errol
Diamonds are forever :)
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Diamonds are forever only because the average person can't sell them at a price which looks remotely reasonable. LOL
The pricing of Diamonds is huge fraud. Except for rare examples of size and color there is no shortage of them. The sales, and thus the value of them is carefully managed to give the impression that they are rare and valuable, where in fact they are plentiful and would be relatively inexpensive.
You are not buying a diamond, you are buying sentiment. Unfortunately woman are more susceptible to consider that a good monetary investment.
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18-10-2017, 06:49 AM
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Totally true I think about the price of diamonds being a fraud. Copper tourmaline is more rare than diamonds, and this venture has been quite fun
I had to turn down the orange copper bearing tourmaline Under further inspection and more pictures I discovered there is a small crack. You can actually see it in the picture I posted near the bottom right. Not exactly what I would call VVS clarity ( eye clean with flaws only showing under magnification ) I could live with a small VVS type scratch or flaw, but no way for cracks or chips.
I think I might have found a light purple, copper bearing, huge 9.3 carat, pear shaped tourmaline. It's got a couple very tiny surface scratches, but they are quite tiny and I am confident they would not be noticeable, a real VVS so to speak. It's quite stunning but the price is quite high. I will consider it but keep looking. I must be picky because this is my wife's wedding ring.
On the flip side, my colour changing 5.7 carat tourmaline should be coming any day now. That's the one I'm using for my own ring.
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24-10-2017, 06:40 AM
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I think I have finally found the stone for my wife's ring. This time I have confirmed it's 100 % flawless even under magnification. It's a trillion cut orange tourmaline over 7 carats 12mm by 12mm and 8 mm depth. It's deep enough that the traditional disadvantages of a trillion cut is minimized.
O.K so it's not copper bearing, but at least it's the vibrant colour she wanted, 100 % flawless and large and beautiful, so I think it's as close as we're going to get It's kind of expensive but I'm trying to work out a deal right now with the seller from Thailand . It was originally mined in Nigeria.
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17-09-2017, 10:44 AM
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This is interesting, if you and her both want tourmaline, then definitely go for it. It's almost as if you ask permission, ha, I know you're not, but just saying, you don't have to get a diamond just because everybody else would expect you to do that. Or maybe it's not even related to what I just said and you simply ask about tourmaline. To be honest, a diamond is a diamond, but for me it would be less special as compared to tourmaline if I was in your context 100%, especially that she loves tourmaline. I just googled some tourmaline rings, for women looks as it should, but for men it looks like you are about to be the next wizard in the town ha! It looks good!
tl'dr whatever you choose it will be the right choice. my comment is useless lol, letting you know that you should choose what you want, not what other people (outsiders) expect you to get :)
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17-09-2017, 02:08 PM
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As Bubbles said, it should be only your choice. Please yourself and your wife with rings you like most.
Good luck!
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17-09-2017, 05:33 PM
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Hi Bubbles ! I know exactly what you mean about looking like Gandalf LOL ! There are many that are overly gaudy or silly looking ( we have to remember many of these came from the early 20th century ) Some of them look O.K for men, particularly the green tourmaline that is not too over the top. We have viewed hundreds on ebay and there is only 1 or 2 that she is drawn to, and I have only found maybe 3 that are suitable for me, but we are very early in the process yet.
You're comment is not useless, I appreciate it. Nobody will be able to talk us out of it, we have already decided.
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17-09-2017, 06:04 PM
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Tourmaline made a huge splash in the 20's and 30's and there is some really interesting pieces from great artists.
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Cool. You got any pics or particular resources? That would be neat to see.
I use to work in fine jewelry for a number of years. Diamonds are a good marketing selling stone. Employees were eligible to get up to 50-60 percent off Diamonds because they really are worth half their value I regret to inform folks. Personally, I find other fine stones like emeralds, rubies, sapphires, much prettier than diamonds and these days I go absolutely crazy for healing Crystals including Malachite's, Jaspers, Quartz, Amethysts ... It seems we have come to a place in society( at least in the past 50-70) years where we have put a lot of value in a diamond when it comes to marriage/commitment.
Anywho,the stone should be whatever makes you both happy, be a lake pebble or a diamond, you both have each other. Best wishes
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