the four intersecting images about any relationship

[saurab]

1. the image about the relationship itself (like with your father)
2. the generalization of that image given the relationship type (like THE father or what you think about people's fathers in general)
3. the idealized image of that relationship type (like the idealized father image which is what you want your father to be. any deficit in the relationship with your present father will be exaggeratedly represented as an asset in the idealized father image to cope with the deficit in the present relationship via reveries and daydreaming and fantasizing).
4. the fourth and final image is an abstraction about that relationship type (like FATHERHOOD and will represent the most common and the most cherished qualities only without any reference to anything concrete)

Glad to read this inspiring post here and the way you draw pictures of these necessary elements are key to have a successful relationship. These could indeed gave a new life to your relationships and to your life.