To my Husband

Originally Posted by krisam

I am new to this but here we go anyway.

I have noticed my elder son talking to his girlfriend with the same behaviour and i pull him on it every time. A woman (and a Man) should be treated with the same respect, irrespective of what they do or where they come form.

Yes, but people in relationships get treated in the way they allow other people to treat them.

In that lies the culpability for your present situation.

It is not for you to check him when he does behave badly, it is for her to do that. She teaches him the limits of what she will accept. She must set the boundaries and he will either respect them or lose her. The choice is simple.

For you the horse has bolted and it will be difficult to get it back, she still has time to close the stable door.
Demand respect or face the consequences.

[Gem]

Originally Posted by Rin

Yes, but people in relationships get treated in the way they allow other people to treat them.

Shallow view which fails to consider a lot of things.

In that lies the culpability for your present situation.

It is not for you to check him when he does behave badly, it is for her to do that. She teaches him the limits of what she will accept. She must set the boundaries and he will either respect them or lose her. The choice is simple.

For you the horse has bolted and it will be difficult to get it back, she still has time to close the stable door.
Demand respect or face the consequences.

Same again.

Originally Posted by Gem

Shallow view which fails to consider a lot of things.

Same again.

You mean they have no choice and are the unwilling victim of their partners?

Husbands And Wives – (Brooks and Dunn)

Two broken hearts lonely looking houses
Where nobody lives
Two people each having so much pride inside
Neither side forgives

The angry words spoken in haste
Such a waste of two lives
It's my belief pride is the chief cause in the decline
Of the number of husbands and wives

A woman and a man
A man and a woman
Some can and some cant and some cant

Two broken hearts lonely looking houses
Where nobody lives
Two people each having so much pride inside
Neither side forgives

The angry words spoken in haste
Such a waste of two lives
It's my belief pride is the chief cause in the decline
Of the number of husbands and wives

It's my belief pride is the chief cause in the decline
Of the number of husbands and wives

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Well, pride and fear and shame