please help

[sage38269]

Hi there I have dove into the affirmations and have started learning all the new wonderful technique to the law of attraction and others....
but I am having trouble applying it to my circumstance and was hoping for some in site :)

I want to move to another province with my daughter to be with family as well as getting support from her father. problem is father is not in agreeance.

now before I get the whole rights legal speal from everybody please note I am leaving out all personal details (lets just say he is a bad man as well as choses not to see his daughter anyway so it dose not affect his rights in anyway)

but I need some help in trying to manifest this because my brain seems to me focusing on all the bad even tho im prating gratitude everyday among others what am I doing wrong??? every affirmation im making seems doubtful to me or makes me feel bad in some way or not empowered.

please if anyone has and positive suggestions to help me get to family for love and support for me and my daughter that would be amazing

bless you all :)

[lapis buddha]

Hi I would ask you why you are doubting your self? This doubt is coming through into your affirmations. We have to believe what we are doing is for the right reasons, and that its truly the Right thing. Have a sit down with pen and paper and just keep writting, don't stop, write about everything that is concerning you, fears, worrys, hate, angry, and write until you figure out why you have the doubt. Listen to the words as you write them, who is saying them, a perant, a loved one, an ex, who put thoses thoughts into you, who is associated with the feelings that raise. Work towards understanding what expereice it was in life that gave you a feeling such as doubt, the voice saying your not good enough, or you can't do it your not strong enough, replace each one with ' i can' 'I am great I am wonderful I am powerful I make my own destiny, I create my life my universe, I make me, I am whole, I love my self.' Affirmations need to come from love, you have to believe in what you want, if you don't then take time to work out what's going on for you. Sending healing as I feel you need some x

[sage38269]

thank you for the wonderful advise and kind words it is greatly appreciated

Hello Sage,
What lapis Buddha has said is an excellent way of trying to understand why you feeling like this and a good way of trying to be more positive and think more positive thoughts about yourself and your situation.. It seems you have a low self-esteem, I know how that feels, I had been in a similar place a few years back (not the same situation that your in now though) and I doubted myself, I only could think negatively about my life as it was then, I didn't love myself and could see no way out of my situation, I tried all sorts of things, I wish I had known lapis Buddha then!!

What I did find that helped me was talking to a friend, a really good friend who helped me see the good in my life, she helped me focus on what made me feel happy, not sad, she taught me about meditation, I know that's not for everyone, but it helped me, gave me clearer thoughts about me and my life, it wasn't easy, but I kinda turned things around.
I stopped beating myself up about things that weren't in my control and I took control of what was! I regained my personal power, it took time and a committed desire on my part to sort myself out, but I came through it, if you follow lapis Buddha's advice to start with I'm sure you will too.... Sending you some hugs

[sage38269]

oh thank you so much. I am truly grateful I came across this site, your advise is all so wonderful and kind. I really appreciate the time taken to respond to my post :)

[Cerulean]

Dear Sage,
I have just begun studying EFT (Emotional Freedom Therapy), which is a forum topic here at SF, and I have found it to be very helpful. To me, EFT seems to help cancel out my negativity and make room for more positivity. There are people on this forum who know much more about this than I do.

I am sending you as much positive energy as I can muster and wish you well. Good luck to you and God bless.

[sage38269]

ok so I sat down and wrote out everything and I have come to the conclusion that I perceive myself as a "victim" not to be in control of my own life ( as I was a victim of abuse) I have realized the voice in my head that gives me doubt and worry is infact my ex and I have come to realize that I believe he has some sort of power over me and I see others as having some sort of control my life or that I have to answer to them (my ex, lawyers. judges exct..). which is giving me doubts about being able to move to family and worries about my daughters safety.... I do how ever have a strong belief in me being a wonderful mom and doing everything I can for my daughter and a determination to never give up on trying to get what I want. that being said should I focus on affirmations on fixing my belief in myself rather then the on out come I with to have? if I do that will that affect the outcome I envision? sorry to ask so many questions but its vary hard to try and figure this out on your own (or at least it is for me). again if anyone can give me advise on how to help I would really appreciate it. sending out my best wishes to you all and hoping you are all having a wonderful evening

Originally Posted by sage38269

Hi there I have dove into the affirmations and have started learning all the new wonderful technique to the law of attraction and others....
but I am having trouble applying it to my circumstance and was hoping for some in site :)

I want to move to another province with my daughter to be with family as well as getting support from her father. problem is father is not in agreeance.

now before I get the whole rights legal speal from everybody please note I am leaving out all personal details (lets just say he is a bad man as well as choses not to see his daughter anyway so it dose not affect his rights in anyway)

but I need some help in trying to manifest this because my brain seems to me focusing on all the bad even tho im prating gratitude everyday among others what am I doing wrong??? every affirmation im making seems doubtful to me or makes me feel bad in some way or not empowered.

please if anyone has and positive suggestions to help me get to family for love and support for me and my daughter that would be amazing

bless you all :)

1. Believe, better even know and trust that everything will be alright (i know it might be hard, but i trust you);
2. I sincerely recomend you to read Louise L. Hay book : "You can heal your life" there you will definately find the right answer - no doubt.
3. I wish you the best!!!