Cynicism

[immortal coil]

I'm not sure what it is exactly, but I wouldn't call myself a 'trusting' person, when it comes to forming relationships. There's always a doubt creeping in, even at the earliest stages of a relationship.

Take for example the most recent woman I've been conversing with. She's done nothing for me not to trust her, and being someone that I've worked with for a few years, and got to know a little better, there shouldn't be any concerns, yet doubt has still found a way to creep in.

Although in this case, I've got to admit that she's potentially seeing someone already, which could be throwing me off, but I was hoping to treat her as a friend, and if something changes, so be it.

Anyway, but the point is, that the circumstances don't really matter too much. It seems like any time I start to get emotionally attached to anyone, the doubts start to creep in.

I've always been sensitive to people's energy, mental states, and intentions, so I'm wondering if it's my intuition telling me that these woman are wrong for me, or perhaps it's unfounded fear being fed by the ego.

I've also started to wonder if these were old 'programs' from a past life that I need to work through (i.e. my issues of trust).

I've considered all possibilities at this point, and to be honest, I'm not sure if anyone can give me any kind of answers, that I don't have already, but it still feels good to talk about it. Thanks.

[cutie]

Hi immortal coil, I don't really have answers or advice either . I don't know how to do this right either . I am single for years. I just wanted to share that I also have trust issues. I'd rather be this way than get hurt. I would listen to my intuition in your situation as it rarely steers you wrong..

Originally Posted by immortal coil

I'm not sure what it is exactly, but I wouldn't call myself a 'trusting' person, when it comes to forming relationships. There's always a doubt creeping in, even at the earliest stages of a relationship.

I've considered all possibilities at this point, and to be honest, I'm not sure if anyone can give me any kind of answers, that I don't have already, but it still feels good to talk about it. Thanks.

One of the best things to do is check the consistency in your words to see if they match up ...
Highligted in red you say you wouldn't call yourself a "trusting person" which sounds like you're not & mistrust is automatic ...
Whatever the reason is for your guard/shields to go may need to be explored to prevent it from happening w/every person especially one you may want to form a relationship with ...
Regardless, if you're an empath or just sensitive - there is a reason for these feelings to pop up since its possible to block another person's energy ...

Since she might be dating someone else, why not treat her simply as a colleague with whom you have a friendly repore as well as a good working relationship ...
If it doesn't work out for her, you will have a established a fair enough relationship to expand further ...
However, I would also take into consideration work ethics & dating ...
Good luck ~

Hi coil, first you need to ask yourself specifically what that doubt is about. You have to be as specific as possible. For example you might fear to get abandoned, for hold on to your guard with people. It might that a certain event might have happened in your life that created an energetic block, that makes it hard for you to trust people. Meditation is the way to get an honest and sincere answer.

Also from what you said, about being sensitive to peoples' energy it sounds like you might be an empath. There's a few threads here about that that you might want to look at. I wrote a thread about relationships and being an empath in them. I hope that helps :)

Hi Coil,
It sounds to me as though it's actually yourself that you mistrust, not others, and that could definitely be from past experience or a past life pattern. This woman didn't actually do anything to cause you to mistrust her, so perhaps you are doubting your ability to have a relationship? If you can find your pattern you can sort it out.

Could it arise from insecurities in your background, your earlier years?

♫