:confused1: Being Infatuated and In Love ?

girlsearching · #1 03-01-2013, 09:24 PM

okay so i'm torn about the two words. you see i guesse i have always felt that i loved certain crushes but than again i didnt know if the feelings were mutal. can you be in love with someone even when the person does not exist i mean they are physically not here with you. when dose infatauted turn into love can it be that too. ? i'm guilty as charged when i say i have it bad for being infatuated with people.

twinkle · #2 03-01-2013, 09:52 PM

Good question. I also wonder when it is infatuation or a soulmate connection not understanding why you instantly feel so connected to someone.

Somnia · #3 03-01-2013, 10:05 PM

This is an interesting question. Is it infatuation or a soul mate connection? If we go by the definition of infatuation, this is what we get:

"A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction. An object of extravagant, short-lived passion"

I decided to bold the term "short-lived" because I believe that is the key component that separates puppy loves from the real deal. Most people who become infatuated are focusing on the physical, while true love focuses on the spiritual. If you can "feel" the person's spiritual light, and their light resonates with yours, that is true love (imo). Infatuation is short lived, so it's always best to take things slowly and see if your feelings remain over time. You might think you are in love with someone, but if it's pure physical attraction, I would not immediately trust it as true love.

#4 03-01-2013, 10:26 PM

Infatuation is falling in love with someone's "physical".....its hard to have real love there...but it can happen.

Love is "falling in love" with someone's Soul/spirit....and when this happens....your kinda blind to whatever the appearance is....

Does that make sense people!!!?

Somnia · #5 03-01-2013, 10:29 PM

@Mr. WhiteMore - Yes it does! It makes perfect sense

twinkle · #6 03-01-2013, 10:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr.Whitmore

Love is "falling in love" with someone's Soul/spirit....and when this happens....your kinda blind to whatever the appearance is....

Wow, that means many men are infatuated rather than in love! It would be great if my physical appearance did not matter so much to a man.

#7 03-01-2013, 10:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by twinkle

Wow, that means many men are infatuated rather than in love! It would be great if my physical appearance did not matter so much to a man.

Yup..

Most people hitch up early in life...then when they get older separate...why?

Physical appearances or realizing they actually have nothing in common....are the culprits..

Now if you got to know someone's words.......first....then....soul mates for eternity......see?

girlsearching · #8 04-01-2013, 12:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr.Whitmore

Infatuation is falling in love with someone's "physical".....its hard to have real love there...but it can happen.

Love is "falling in love" with someone's Soul/spirit....and when this happens....your kinda blind to whatever the appearance is....

Does that make sense people!!!?

yes that makes sense and it sound like the truth Mr. Whitmore.

girlsearching · #9 04-01-2013, 12:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by twinkle

Wow, that means many men are infatuated rather than in love! It would be great if my physical appearance did not matter so much to a man.

you are right Twinkle i wish physical appearance did not really matter so much and we could just see who people are on the inside. its like if are eyes were made diffarently were we could look at a person and fall in love with thier personality first.

girlsearching · #10 04-01-2013, 08:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by somnia

This is an interesting question. Is it infatuation or a soul mate connection? If we go by the definition of infatuation, this is what we get:

"A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction. An object of extravagant, short-lived passion"

I decided to bold the term "short-lived" because I believe that is the key component that separates puppy loves from the real deal. Most people who become infatuated are focusing on the physical, while true love focuses on the spiritual. If you can "feel" the person's spiritual light, and their light resonates with yours, that is true love (imo). Infatuation is short lived, so it's always best to take things slowly and see if your feelings remain over time. You might think you are in love with someone, but if it's pure physical attraction, I would not immediately trust it as true love.

somnia i agree with you being infatuated is just temperary for the most part, without the person sometimes not even knowing it. i wish sometimes i would not be infatuated with someone right away though.