Just wanna talk

[Brucely]

Is being alone truly happy?

Im not by any means social, but many are drawn to me and im at that point where i much prefer to be alone. Ive found friends to just be let-downs and soul sucking, even my longest childhood friends i can hardly relate to anymore. Im on a complete different world. Even girls that are drawn to me, i feel like its just an energy attraction, i cant find the means to put on a facade of always smiling and talking and getting to know someone over and over again. It always work better in imagination. But part of me feels the need to be with someone. Does being alone ever feel truly happy?

I find much solace here than real relationships. Yes, you reading this. Thank you. Here is someone who you comfort with simple words and emoticons. Youre cherished by people youve never even met. Your thoughts are of value to someone halfway around the world, so dont hold back. Its amazing how simple words displayed as line segments can have such an impact. My friends, we may never meet, but thats the beauty of it. You feel me?

Xoxo
Love, me

[Dude]

This is both beautiful and sad to me.

What I would suggest is you consider why you like to be alone. why have these relationships made you feel let down or sucked the life out of you? Find out exactly what's going on and then work with it... not in the sence that you need to change, but how to work it so you are happy

I'm pretty much an introvert, there is nothing wrong with that, If I was not married I would love living on my own but we all have emotional and physical needs (I don't mean the obvious here) so needs still need to be met. Complete isolation, in my opinion, is not healthy.

With the not relating to childhood friends- that's not all that uncommon! As a child I wanted friends who where a bit tomboyish and enjoyed rolling down hills and playing in mud... while still enjoying teddys and glitter, nowadays I'm just not sure that's a good basis for a friendship lol. Maybe you have just outgrown those people around you.

sending lots of love your way dude.

[Patrycia-Rose]

Yes, you can be alone and happy. Alone does not mean lonely. After escaping a disastrous marriage, I spent the next 22 years on my own and loved it. I'm a huge introvert, find socially interacting with people draining and makes me miserable. I forced myself to party for years before finally admitting to myself it just wasn't me and have never been to another party since.

I'm happiest on my own, I laugh a lot, am content, happy and thrive.

[Glacier Serenade]

I feel similar to you in the way that I am an overactive empath who always has many thoughts and variables in choices and situations and I just can't see myself in a successful relationship and having to carry the weight of two overactive minds. I'm pretty good at letting go of any emotional attraction to someone (which is quoiromantic most likely most of the time, or I just don't know what love really is lol). I often wonder how deep introverts/socially anxious/overactively minded people like me have the ability to begin a relationship, yet alone maintain one :O

Just try being alone and if you don't feel happy in that situation then try something else perhaps living in a flat with others is more suited to you than an actual relationship.

[Brucely]

I was definitely in a funk when i wrote that. But still meant it. Meeting someone as an introvert/quiet one isnt hard, its finding someone youre content with.

Originally Posted by Patrycia-Rose

Yes, you can be alone and happy. Alone does not mean lonely. After escaping a disastrous marriage, I spent the next 22 years on my own and loved it. I'm a huge introvert, find socially interacting with people draining and makes me miserable. I forced myself to party for years before finally admitting to myself it just wasn't me and have never been to another party since.

I'm happiest on my own, I laugh a lot, am content, happy and thrive.

I like your signature

[Patrycia-Rose]

Understood Glad you're feeling better.

[light25]

there is a difference between alone and being isolated.
I personally love to be alone, but it's even greater to be around friends who know you in and out. You can have fun and enjoy life, either alone or with people.
I think you are just being true to yourself and want meaningful relationships. but sometimes you gotta compromise a little, not too much tho.

[Starman]

Being alone is a physical experience while being lonely is about emotional isolation; you can be with a person, or even in a group, and still be lonely. Loneliness just means you are not getting your emotional needs met and another person may or may not be able to do that for you. I am happy and very comfortable living alone.

I do quiet meditation daily and that gives me a feeling of being connected. I have lived alone a good part of my life but I do not get lonely. I occasionally socialize, but socializing is often superficial, even though it does fill a need, but I have no need to live with someone to get my needs met.

We have more people in the U.S. living alone today than ever before in history; because grand-kids, kids, parents, and grandparents, used to all live together, or at least in close proximity. We have been conditioned to think that people should not be alone but lots of people are very happy being alone.

[Aube Borealis]

The best thing is that you know what want and you are a happy with your chosen life.

[Fearless36]

Being alone can be happy for some, but so too can socialising. Different people have different requirements. If you prefer to be alone, that’s fine. However just because past friends have let you down – don’t write off people completely. In some ways its good to have been let down by others because it gives you indicators of what you don’t want happening again and lets you choose what kind of people you want to attract into your life.

However, living in your imagination can be a disadvantage too. The real universe has many hundreds of different kinds of people, and maybe you just need to meet new people out there. Rather than doing it from a place of neediness i.e. not being let down or validating ideas you have about friends that don’t work – what if instead you changed the focus on meeting people who made you laugh for example. People who can be fun or a contribution to you and your life?

Being alone can be joyous and fulfilling but you need to have a lot of self love and gratitude to make this a full time mission. However there can be great joy in connecting with others too and again its helpful to have compassion and empathy when dealing with others.