Does anyone else keep attracting false soul mates?

[ParanoidHippie]

I keep attracting false soul mates. It's driving me crazy. There's this guy who keeps insisting he's my soul mate or feels a special connection with me. I don't feel the same way about him. I do feel like he's being an energy vampire and stalking me, so I do feel his energy strongly. But I know for sure this isn't a soul mate. This isn't the only time this happened to me. A lot of people think they feel a special connection with me. Could it just be because I'm sensitive and people aren't used to interacting with sensitive people? I can't deal with these creeps anymore. They're ruining my life.

[Illuminata007]

Set firm boundaries. You may want to learn to shield yourself

[Gem]

Originally Posted by ParanoidHippie

I keep attracting false soul mates. It's driving me crazy. There's this guy who keeps insisting he's my soul mate or feels a special connection with me.

What a tool.

I don't feel the same way about him.

Tell the creep to bug off.

I do feel like he's being an energy vampire and stalking me, so I do feel his energy strongly. But I know for sure this isn't a soul mate. This isn't the only time this happened to me. A lot of people think they feel a special connection with me. Could it just be because I'm sensitive and people aren't used to interacting with sensitive people? I can't deal with these creeps anymore. They're ruining my life.

Look man, I have a special connection to some people, but that doesn't mean I want anything from them. Ya gotta find people who don't want anything from you, and steer clear these sorts of emotional manipulations you describe.

[ParanoidHippie]

He just called me a psychopath because I'm trying to ignore him.

[Dargor]

There is no such thing as ''false'' soulmates.

[FairyCrystal]

Originally Posted by ParanoidHippie

I keep attracting false soul mates. It's driving me crazy. There's this guy who keeps insisting he's my soul mate or feels a special connection with me. I don't feel the same way about him. I do feel like he's being an energy vampire and stalking me, so I do feel his energy strongly. But I know for sure this isn't a soul mate. This isn't the only time this happened to me. A lot of people think they feel a special connection with me. Could it just be because I'm sensitive and people aren't used to interacting with sensitive people? I can't deal with these creeps anymore. They're ruining my life.

If memory serves it was you who asked this same thing at least once before.
The answers won't have changed much since then.
Take responsibility for this happening. You attract this for some reason so the solution is to be found within you too.
There is no such thing as false soulmates btw. A soulmates doesn't mean you will have a fairytale relationship with them. Soulmates enter your life to help you grow, to make you see things.
If this keeps happening, your soul likely really wants you to learn this lesson, but you don't, so the Universe keeps dishing up more of the same, until you do learn.
In my experience, if you keep turning a blind eye to something your Soul really wants you to learn... the Universe will dish up a situation you cannot turn away from. A (very) hard lesson, that initially could've been learnt in a gentler way. A serious die-hard stalker could be such a lesson. In my case it was a narcissist.
Energy vampire? Nonsense. It's your energy. You can get it back anytime you wish. You can also choose to not let it flow to others. Often people do this themselves for whatever reason, then blame the other for it.

Stop blaming others. Find out why you attract this, and what it is you get out of this.
It could be you are repeating an old pattern from childhood, could be you are copying a pattern from either one of your parents, could be you secretly love the attention of being a 'victim' and so on.

[ParanoidHippie]

Originally Posted by FairyCrystal

If memory serves it was you who asked this same thing at least once before.
The answers won't have changed much since then.
Take responsibility for this happening. You attract this for some reason so the solution is to be found within you too.
There is no such thing as false soulmates btw. A soulmates doesn't mean you will have a fairytale relationship with them. Soulmates enter your life to help you grow, to make you see things.
If this keeps happening, your soul likely really wants you to learn this lesson, but you don't, so the Universe keeps dishing up more of the same, until you do learn.
In my experience, if you keep turning a blind eye to something your Soul really wants you to learn... the Universe will dish up a situation you cannot turn away from. A (very) hard lesson, that initially could've been learnt in a gentler way. A serious die-hard stalker could be such a lesson. In my case it was a narcissist.
Energy vampire? Nonsense. It's your energy. You can get it back anytime you wish. You can also choose to not let it flow to others. Often people do this themselves for whatever reason, then blame the other for it.

Stop blaming others. Find out why you attract this, and what it is you get out of this.
It could be you are repeating an old pattern from childhood, could be you are copying a pattern from either one of your parents, could be you secretly love the attention of being a 'victim' and so on.

What lessons could I learn from weird BPD stalkers? Why can't he understand that he's unwanted?

Must admit during my 20s in particular - I suppose when "soul mates" and New Age were becoming fashionable - I had guys claiming they were my soul mate. I suppose, in the social order I was "a prospect" and soul mate was a good opening line. Utterly ridiculous because they'd hardly got to know me (in the mundane sense) let alone my spirituality, in the time before the declaration came out!

(I do have a soul mate - same gender - nothing carnal about it.)

[Nature Grows]

Originally Posted by ParanoidHippie

I keep attracting false soul mates. It's driving me crazy. There's this guy who keeps insisting he's my soul mate or feels a special connection with me.

Originally Posted by Gem

What a tool.

Oh man! Gem... that made me lol.

Originally Posted by ParanoidHippie

What lessons could I learn from weird BPD stalkers? Why can't he understand that he's unwanted?

You could learn how to not be around people that you don't want to be around. He could learn to not harass people who don't wan't to be with him or that, thats not the best way to go about things. All these type of situations can be different though can't they, you'll just have to get creative with it, with making him leave you alone seeing as you have already made it clear you are not interested, also listening to your own inner sensitivity about this may help.

[Anne]

"You could learn how to not be around people that you don't want to be around. He could learn to not harass people who don't wan't to be with him or that, thats not the best way to go about things. All these type of situations can be different though can't they, you'll just have to get creative with it, or listen to your own inner sensitivity about this."


Nice suggestions NG :) Creative solution may equal Illuminata's advice. Be firm.

I've had my fill of BPD's and NPD's, including energy vamps which are no less real and in some cases the same.

Protect yourself and don't second guess. It seems hard and ridiculous but oh so worth it in the end.