Transgendered sibling abuses parents?

[LadyVirgoxoxo]

My sister is transgendered, mentally ill, and abusive. I have gone away to college for a year and a half so I am away and safe from her but both of my parents and my two cats have to live with her everyday. She is emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive. Everyday she goes on a rampage and breaks things. The state of the house is absolutely terrible. She has already gone to jail but she was discriminated against because she identifies as transgender. My mom refuses to press charges on her or send her to a mental hospital. My sister refuses therapy. I am honestly worried that things will escalate and that I will no longer have a family anymore. At the very least I would like to help my cats, but the university I am at does not allow pets. Soon, like within the next year, I should be moving off-campus though and I will see if I could move my cats out with me. My dad is elderly, sickly, and a stroke patient. For the last month he hasn't been eating a lot and has lost a lot of weight.

I don't know what I should do. The counselor I work with at school says that there is nothing that I can do about it, it is up to my mother to make the decision. But I can't help but feel guilty. Is there anything I can do?

[Gem]

Originally Posted by LadyVirgoxoxo

My sister is transgendered, mentally ill, and abusive. I have gone away to college for a year and a half so I am away and safe from her but both of my parents and my two cats have to live with her everyday. She is emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive. Everyday she goes on a rampage and breaks things. The state of the house is absolutely terrible. She has already gone to jail but she was discriminated against because she identifies as transgender. My mom refuses to press charges on her or send her to a mental hospital. My sister refuses therapy. I am honestly worried that things will escalate and that I will no longer have a family anymore. At the very least I would like to help my cats, but the university I am at does not allow pets. Soon, like within the next year, I should be moving off-campus though and I will see if I could move my cats out with me. My dad is elderly, sickly, and a stroke patient. For the last month he hasn't been eating a lot and has lost a lot of weight.

I don't know what I should do. The counselor I work with at school says that there is nothing that I can do about it, it is up to my mother to make the decision. But I can't help but feel guilty. Is there anything I can do?

Sounds tough. You're probably doing the best you can already, and one can only do what they can, so I guess just giving the olds a call every now and then would mean a lot.

[Captain]

Sounds like a hormone imbalance. But basically your parents are to blame, it's their responsibility to keep the house in order and hold her accountable. Maybe you should focus on moving out.